2006-12-18 00:45:54 · 5 answers · asked by james_lynne1977 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he goes threw my phone my purse and reads my email drives me nuts when i say something about it he says i am hiding something i am not i just like privacy
2006-12-18 01:08:16 · update #1
Ok you need to stop this dude dead in his tracks! That's a control issue,if he pulls that now,imagine how much worse he will be as time goes on?I had a guy like that and he ended up getting violent....Do you really want somebody who invades you like that?I mean you don't pull that on him,why dose he feel he has the right to do this to you?Break away,unless you like feeling used and invaded....
2006-12-18 01:11:01 · answer #1 · answered by raventears56 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess I should ask if he is like that with everyone? If not, here is a possible answer.
He more than likely was deeply hurt in the past by someone he trusted very much. Like if he was deeply in love with his g/f Jane, & he found out the hard way Jane was cheating on him with his best friend for a long time. They both violated his trust and by that, hurt him quite a bit.
He probably doesn't mean to. He just has this need to know the truth to whatever it is he is questioning in his mind. Him asking you about something is him putting it out on the table that he would like to know, truthfully, what is going on and would like to hear it from you. That's the one chance you have to be honest with him about it because if you lie, and he eventually finds out the truth, no matter how small of an issue it is in reality, it will hurt him, a lot.
How to get it to stop...? Be truthful with him always. Especially when it comes to things he can verify the fact you were truthful. Communicate with him more about the things he seems to be real nosey about. That way, you end up telling him what's going on with you & the things in your life, not leaving much to be nosey about. It may take awhile, but I'd almost guarantee that once you gained his trust 100%, it would stop.
2006-12-18 09:10:50 · answer #2 · answered by [ 5 [SIX] 3] 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to "F*ck off!" and mind his own business.
Everyone has a secret or two no matter how small or insignificant........and I bet he has a few too. Irerspective of that, you have a right to your privacy as does he, ask him to politely exercise your right to this but make it clear that trust between you is an important bond and that you are not trying to hide anything from him.
2006-12-18 08:48:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nosey about what? Normally you tell hiim to stop being so damn nosey...or WHY he's gotta be all in your kool-aid...but then it depends on the situation...like if you came home 4:30am from seeing a movie and the theatres close at midnight......
2006-12-18 09:02:31 · answer #4 · answered by Dennis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put a mouse trap in the places he likes to be nosey. ...............Just talk to him about it. Let him know that it bothers you...maybe he doesn't realize that he is doing anything wrong.....communication is the best medicine to keep a relationship healthy.....try it
2006-12-18 08:52:44 · answer #5 · answered by eldiablo0731 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋