I have met the most wonderful guy and have fallen quite hard. Is this possible? I am thinking of moving in with him after only a month. Looked up the definition of LUST, so I know it's not that,lol. I have never met such a genuine, caring person, just want some opinions on this.
2006-12-18 00:17:46 · 18 answers · asked by michelle c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, love at first sight, then I couldn't believe how much I could hate someone after I got to know him...lol. Only time can tell, wish you luck!
2006-12-18 00:21:23 · answer #1 · answered by Tracy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lust is more of a physical thing not an emotional emotion. He probably treats u better than the past guys u have been with and makes u feel special and wanted and that is why u are falling for him fast. It's great when u meet someone like this, but I wouldn't rush into moving in with each other, that is what could destroy what u are building with him. Right now u are dating and probably can't wait to see him and u get excited when he phones, and that's the greatest part, but if u move in with him and he is always there u miss out on that. You want to keep it exciting, u want him to miss u and crave to be with u, if u move in right away he won't have that either, that is when everything changes. Take it all slow and enjoy each stage instead of jumping ahead, believe me I have done that in the past and I regretted alot.
2006-12-18 09:14:36 · answer #2 · answered by Amber 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very possible to fall in love after only knowing someone for a short period of time.
The thing is that you fall in love with what you KNOW.
It's the things that you DON'T know that can make you fall out of love with someone. That's why it's usually a good idea to get to really know someone before making any kind of a serious commitment.
Although it's possible to rush into a relationship and have it all work out, unfortunately there's something called 'Murphy's Law' that usually doesn't allow that to happen.
My advice would be to hold off on moving in. Enjoy the 'love that you're in' and take things a lil' slow. Although you could truly be in love with this guy, there's no way that you REALLY know him after only a month.
2006-12-18 08:36:56 · answer #3 · answered by Mister 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Michelle, it is a wonderful thing to fall in love. But the romantic aspects of love are only the first springtime of a relationship. Love is something that grows between two people over time.
An over-committment in the springtime of romance, does more to dampen it and discourage its development, than to cause it to thrive. Two people need to grow in relation to one another for a period of development before they should try to rely on one another for moral and financial, as well as family support. It takes a great deal of trust built over time to have a solid and well grounded relationship. And certainly to have a good family, that is what is required. To be disappointed in love, because of failing to develop it correctly, harms a personal sense of trust and creates an inability to form a family life. The springtime of love, if kept in innocence, does not harm anyone if the two decide because of circumstances to part, they remain friends. A new springtime may come later and develop with another, ready to give his or her more mature heart to a long term committment.
2006-12-18 08:29:38 · answer #4 · answered by QueryJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my girlfriend on the internet, yahoo personals to be exact! We had talked for 2 weeks, she was in the process of finding a new apartment in the city she lived in. I asked her to go ahead and move here, I had never laid eyes on her. She packed up, I went and picked her up. This has been my longest relationship it has been alomost 4 yrs now, and she is still an amazing woman, I have not one regret,...You know when you know.
2006-12-18 08:38:00 · answer #5 · answered by Sydney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi! we have the same situation and i've had experienced the way you've feel for now.I't's just good to know that I'm not the only who felt the same way as i've thought only I can.Yayaya....i really believe that fallen' in love with a man in a short time because for me,what ever times may go through in a relationship,whether it short or long time,for me importantly is YOU FELT THE REAL LOVE WITH THAT PERSON....ask for me, he deserves the best for your love.
2006-12-18 08:36:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's wonderful that you feel this way but please don't rush into moving in with someone until you are at least a year in a relationship. By then the newness will have warn off and you'll both really know how you feel about each other.
2006-12-18 08:28:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i absolutely agree that it is possible...!!
you cant fake real spellbinding chemistry!!!
i met and fell in love with my ryan the day i met him, and he did too. he met me in my worst state so i know it was not totally superficial physical attraction or LUST, (messy frizzy hair, spikey legs, no make-up etc) but we clicked immediately. we ended up sitting all day and night speaking, and when we did part, it was the hardest moment id experienced in a while, because id already fallen so deeply. his soul and personality shon through, and captured me...and i knew within knowing him for 10mins...he was "it"
it is as if iv found my best friend and soulmate all on the same day in one person.
go for it girl... when its "right" you know its right!! and you can't deny yourself.
2006-12-18 08:36:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutly! I met my boyfriend of 3 years and I moved in shortly after our first date. I'm not the desperate type or anything, I just knew from how we got along and how he treated me that he was the one!
2006-12-18 08:24:06 · answer #9 · answered by couty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not lust, it's infatuation. What if he dupes you after that? Can you take the heart ache? Get to know more about him first before moving in with him.
2006-12-18 08:40:35 · answer #10 · answered by disgruntled 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋