can you stay just friends with an ex?

Question

I was out on my 3rd date with a new bf on Sat and I saw him txt hhis ex like twice while we were out, they dated for about a year but i dont know when or why they split.
I was feeling bad bout meeting my ex 2mo, but now i think i may be being hard on my self, what do you all think?

Answer 1

it depends on the person. If they st6ill have feelings for their ex then i'd be carefull. If they are a happy go lucky can't stay mad type or somone with a lot of friends i'd say its fine.

Answer 2

Yes, you can. It depends on the two people and what relationship each of them wants to have. If both people cannot come to some mutual understanding of the "new" relationship, then the relationship will not work. As the saying goes, "It takes two." But it sounds like you have several questions within this question, and it sounds more complex than simply "Can you stay just friends with an ex?".

Answer 3

No, not unless you they have both stopped feeling the way they used to, if one is still interested, then they may well use this to get close to them....its best to sever all ties in some respects, unless they really need help or advice...otherwise they're just living a lie, an it'll be like the pain of splitting up all over again..

Answer 4

Definitely odd that he would be texting his ex so frequently - especially on a date. I think it is extremely rare to have a genuine friendship with an ex - especially after serious relationship.

Obviously if there are kids involved it is necessary to forge some kind of amicable relationship for their sake - but real friendship? Quite difficult.

I would be really concerned if my boyfriend was texting his ex, and vice versa - have it out with your bloke and ask him direclty what the situation is - you don't deserve to be messed around.

Answer 5

It's fine being friends with your ex.

I'm best friends with my ex-girlfriend, we're on the phone all the time and we always talk to each other.

There isn't anything wrong with staying in contact. After all, after a year of being in a relationship, they must have some feelings still left.

Answer 6

You can stay friends with an ex, but I think its very poor form for him to be texting her while you are on a date! I think you need to find out a bit more about her and if in fact they have really broken up!

Answer 7

Well if your bf calls his ex and goes out with her and that is bothering you you should definitly tell him don't bottle up these feelings but rememeber that that means that you may risk going out with YOUR ex. So who is more important to you here? If you both decide on going out and calling you exes, don't get too close to them when you and your bf fight. It's won't be a very good ending.

Answer 8

some people can stay friends when they split

but

as you dont know how long and for what reason they split up maybe you should be a bit cautious

anyway it was very rude of him to be texting ANYONE while he is out on a date with you

why cant people make do without a mobile phone for a few hours

Answer 9

Of course you can remain good friends with ex's. I have good relationships with all mine But and it's a biggy. Tell your b/f how bad mannered he is, there is absolutely no excuse for texting or phoning an ex while in your company. Your company should be enough for him, unless its a dire emergency.

Answer 10

what you feel right now is just pretty normal. all you just need to do is to talk to him regarding your both feelings, you two must be open to each other to build trust in your relationship. just move on, whatever the past is already a history. just make it sure that you both love each others and trust each other. and regarding the ex, it's ok to stay as a friend as long as you know that there's already a limitation, just friends and nothing else!