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ok - I unknowingly and certainly unintentionally am after leading a guy on. Im naturally quite chatty and friendly to everyone but this guy is after mistaking that for me fancying him - so can you guys PLEASE tell me how I fix it? So far ive told him Im not looking for a relationship to which he says - thats ok - sure we can hang out as mates. I dont want to hurt him as i think hes a really nice guy but I have no romantic interests in him. I know his ultimate motive is romance -so even hanging out with him as mates is going to be awkward as Ill know he has an ulterior agenda - so please please please - how can i let him down gently? Thanks so much! xx

2006-12-17 23:47:37 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

sorry guys I should probably have mentioned that hes a REALLY super sensitive guy and the reason I need to be careful with how I do this is coz hes prone to cry or really take it to heart!

2006-12-18 00:01:52 · update #1

Trend Vampire - sorry when you learn how to speak english you might reanswer your question as right now all i see are letters that make f all sense.

2006-12-18 00:06:50 · update #2

16 answers

It's not yourt fault he's mistaken your frienliness for more than that.
Seeing as he's done that once he's surely going to do it agin.
So it's risky adopting him as a best mate. Tell him you can of course be mates and you'll no doubt see him around.
If he presses you further than that just tell him you've got a lot on.
Then aftyer a while let one of your friends hint to him that you have a feller.


That should do the trick.
If it doesn't he's a thickhead

2006-12-17 23:52:21 · answer #1 · answered by TisIEclair 2 · 1 0

Just remember one thing in life - you are not responsible for the behaviour of others! If he is so super-sensitive that you feel you can't be straight with him, then that's his problem! You need to leave no room for error in this situation as he sounds like quite a needy person, so the earlier you get this straight with him, the better for him in the long run.

Oh, and one more thing - try not to lead guys on like that, because it is hell to try and fix it later!

2006-12-18 08:14:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Oh c'mon Pammy ... you gotta stop winking at and feeling these guys biceps ... course they gonna get the wrong impression
Tell him you don't want to run the risk of your "friendship" getting stale by hanging out ALL the time ... you both need to mix with other friends and he should be out looking for a nice girl .... and you don't want any prospective girlfriends to think that you might be his girlfriend and not approach him
Good Luck

2006-12-18 07:53:57 · answer #3 · answered by Ruthie Baby 6 · 2 0

Sorry Im no help to you Im afraid Im the type that will give a guy a fake number just so i dont have to be rude and tell them Im not interested .

Good luck though

2006-12-18 08:03:05 · answer #4 · answered by C 3 · 1 0

I'm afraid if you have explained to him that you have no romantic feelings for him, the only alternative is to stay away from him. Maybe you could explain it like that first. Tell him, "look, I'm really not interested in you romantically, and if you don't stop trying as you are, I'll just have to stay away from you. Is that what you want?" That'll work...

2006-12-18 07:52:28 · answer #5 · answered by capnemo 5 · 1 0

if you genuinely know he only wants to be friends because he thinks you will change your mind then you must tell him you like him but not that way and you don't think it is a good idea you being friends as you feel you are giving him the wrong impression, but if you feel it could work out as friends then go for it you can never have too many friends he could even give you advice on them

2006-12-18 07:57:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

tell him exactly how you feel and then let him know that you cant hang out as mates until he understands that nothing will ever happen with the two of you. sometimes you just gotta be cruel to be kind to someone. good luck

2006-12-18 07:55:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Don't try to be gentle. Be completely honest, tell him you are'nt interested, but you are happy to be friends if he's happy with that. I'm talking from personal experience. As long as your straight with him from the start then he can't claim you lead him on, or anything later.

2006-12-18 07:58:41 · answer #8 · answered by Bubbly Blonde 4 · 2 0

Give him the i just want to be Friends line, then tell him you`v met someone you really like and fancy and wondered if he could recommend any nice restaurants. that should give him the message.

2006-12-18 07:59:14 · answer #9 · answered by jonibobs 2 · 1 0

Try telling him that you have found this amazing guy and really love him...... Then ask him if he has met any nice girls yet and you are sure some of your friends would really like him...... then describe your ideal date making sure it is the exact opposite of him.......

2006-12-18 09:47:24 · answer #10 · answered by Fox Hunter 4 · 0 0

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