My ex and I broke up a little over 3 months ago. The first month
we were back and fourth with each other. Since then I have
been working on myself and getting over the break up, my heart
is broken. I am now in a place where I am not sad every day. In
the past 3 weeks he calls at least once a week, he sounds all
sad wanting me to call him. The one time a fell for this he had
been drinking and was talking to me like we were still a couple,
so I fall for it and ask if he wants to try again..he says oh no not
now..so that was it, I have not let myself fall for it again. Problem
is he keeps calling, like he does not want me to forget he is around.
I can't help him get thru this, I have to help myself, how do I do
this without hurting his feelings? Or do I just take care of myself,
he does not seem to be caring that this is hurting me..What
can I do?
2006-12-17 23:41:33 · 6 answers · asked by wicktjw 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just tell him "it's over. im trying to move on, and you should do the same. but neither of us can if you keep calling, so please stop." i know that sounds harsh, but sometimes you have to be blunt to get your point across. being subtle and polite doesnt always work.
2006-12-17 23:48:49 · answer #1 · answered by a 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you worried about hurting his feelings? Didn't you say you're heartbroken? He calls you in a drunken stupor and still knows he doesn't want you back.
Get a new phone number.
I got dumped by a guy who kept showing up at my house. I was devastated and he starts telling me I shouldn't be worried about him, and how he's going off on a fishing trip in Michigan. I couldn't believe he had the balls. I put a stop to his little impromptu visits.
You need to take care of yourself. Its hurting you, and you're right, he doesn't care. Kick him to the curb, and shut the door for good. If he calls, ignore him, or hang up the phone, or get another number. Take your self esteem back girl, and tell him where to get off at. Good luck.
2006-12-17 23:54:39 · answer #2 · answered by Firespider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're on the right track and should continue what you've been doing to fell better, but you really should break off all communications with your ex or it's not going to work.
2006-12-18 00:21:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he still cares and just dont have the guts to admit that he still loves you. Confront him and ask him once and for all if it is over or if he still loves you?
If its over, then move on.
If he still loves you and you still love him, forget both your pride make forvigeness and continue loving each other.
2006-12-18 00:05:43 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take car of yourself, change your number and find someone better. there are lots of fish in the sea.
2006-12-17 23:44:21 · answer #5 · answered by Minxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
either tell him i hate your guts or give him a chance to talk simple when done talking say adios good luck
2006-12-17 23:59:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋