I have recently broken up with my friend who has manic depression due to an argument we had, we work in same organisation. Basically I really cared for her and ended up telling her supposed partner who is living with his girlfriend that she was sleeping around, which she was, I did this because I felt that he was using her and she kept on saying the same to me.
It has now been 4 months, and I have contacted her by e-mail 3 times asking how she is and whether we can be friends. I also rang her house and apologised. Now she has reported me to the harrassment team, I have never threatened her ever and I wouldn't because I still care for her. I had an interview with the team when I told them we were having sex which we were and have done a few times, she has told them we were not and I think she has just told them that I fell for her and got jealous of boyfriend.
Can I get in trouble? I never imagined she would do this
Was she justified in doing this? Was I harrassing her?
2006-12-17 23:10:22 · 13 answers · asked by dfsdg d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If I were you I would just stop calling her and stay away from her house.The only way that you can get into trouble is if you keep going over to her house or continue to call her. Just stay away from her until the harassment issue is over with.She may be looking at it as you are the reason for ruining her relationship with her boyfriend. Even though, she is the one who messed it up by cheating. Next time you have a friend that starts to tell you about a cheating experience or something to that fact just stop them mid sentence and tell them that you don't want to be a part of that and that way you can keep your friends. Good luck to you.
2006-12-17 23:17:15 · answer #1 · answered by ws_422 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is an old saying in the business world: "Don't dip your pen in company ink". Sexual, romantic relationships with people at work are a really bad idea for the very reason you wrote and more.
Your second mistake was emailing her. Anything in writing, including emails, can be used against you.
I am not a lawyer but I have been a supervisor in the past. Generally, unless the emails were of the stalker type, or YOU are her supervisor, you may be cleared. However, if you ever get involved with someone else at work, your file is flagged.
They will likely look in your computer's history and all of that. They have programs that monitor all the key strokes and can check where you go, and more.
2006-12-18 07:21:30 · answer #2 · answered by Jack P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not have sad anything, that wasn't your business. You told people she was sleeping around and that is bad. Now she is just mad. It's great that you care for her, but maybe you should leave her alone for a while, she really doesn't want you around and you are bothering her with your behavior. She is going this far, to make clear to you, that you need to stay away, all you can do right now, is leave it alone.
You say you care about her and you say you want what's best for her right? Well, why did you tell her supposed partner, that she was sleeping around, even if she was? Was that your place? You say you are her friend....well, if you think this person is so bad for her, you should have told HER! And if she was telling you, that she thought the same thing, you should have told her, to leave this guy..
You screwed up, now leave her alone, she does not want you around and if you keep being in her face, she will get more angry at you. JUST STAY AWAY!
Good luck.
2006-12-18 07:25:06 · answer #3 · answered by DeeDee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No she was not justified, she is a liar, and sounds like she has caused you some major embarassment. No you havent harassed her. You were perfectly within your rights, but take my advice and stay away before you end up in more trouble than you can handle. Clearly explain your side of the story to everyone involved, tell them its their choice if they believe you or not. Then search for a new job. Keep you head up high as you have done nothing wrong. Leave this horrible woman alone for good!
2006-12-18 07:31:11 · answer #4 · answered by Sophie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
and you care about her so much that you won't even respect her wish that you leave her alone? Yeah I think she maybe justified. Not only did you make a life decision for her(by breaking her and her man up) but you have also made her out to be a tramp. Why would she need a friend like that?
2006-12-18 07:15:15 · answer #5 · answered by Red Winged Bandit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for your troubles. It probably would have been better not to tell your friends partner your friends personal information.
While you have good intentions in contacting your friend, you can get in trouble if you continue. Justified or not she feels like you are harassing her which is what matters to the authorities.
2006-12-18 07:21:39 · answer #6 · answered by Tom M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U know y she is over reacting???coz u told everybody that u ppl had physical relationship.No gal in this world would tolerrate this.
well there must be some reason coz of which she got so angry & complaint agnst u.So now calm down think abt that reason & try to rectified it.so that she takes her complain back.
2006-12-18 07:20:54 · answer #7 · answered by shweta - 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah she could be overreacting just a little. Maybe you should just leave her alone until she is ready to talk. I dont think you should be putting so much of your time and energy into a person you doesn't even want it. ~good luck~
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2006-12-18 07:20:21 · answer #9 · answered by Nancy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you care about her but just leave her alone have someone other than you look out for her.....its the thought that counts, let some time pass
2006-12-18 07:25:14 · answer #10 · answered by Cheri A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋