he's usually very loving but loses his temper vey easily and attacks his older brother then afterwards becomes very apologetic and cries
2006-12-17 22:41:04 · 20 answers · asked by deborah g 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Consequences: if you do that again then .... (you must follow through though)
Also the bottom step and time outs.
2006-12-17 22:42:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Its probably just frustration! Try and see what actually makes him get angry, perhaps is innocent teasing or something, which older brothers are pretty good at! Then try and distract him. He is still a little chap, and may have difficulties expressing certain emotions .... so when it happens next, once he has calmed down, ask him some simple questions like 'why were you so angry' and try and help him see what he can do instead of attack his brother. These are pretty normal emotionals. Love, anger etc, we all feel them, it's just at his age he doesn't really understand!
2006-12-18 07:06:31 · answer #2 · answered by lynne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sound to me he has difficulty dealing with his anger.
He's still young, and probably doesnt understand the feeling so much. You need to talk to him about what to do when his angry, ask him how he feels when he's angry. Then give him some ideas of what he could do instead of hurting his brother when his angry. Maybe come and tell you, and then you both can discuss his feelings. He cries and apologises because his in shock about what just happend and feels bad. Tell him when your happy you smile and you feel tingeling inside, good feelings. Lots of love is needed to help your son with this. It's better dealing with that now, then leaving it and he becoming a ferious rebal later on.
Good luck!!!
2006-12-18 10:52:47 · answer #3 · answered by Squeeza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question! Boys have that extra energy. Try talking to him about how he makes his brother feel. Reward his good behavior with treats of ice cream and extinguish his bad behavior by making him sit in a corner for five minutes. This will take time so be patient. I had the same problem with my son who is now almost 6. He too got really emotional. Good luck!
2006-12-18 06:51:10 · answer #4 · answered by Teddy Bear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kids nowadays needed to be reasoned with, no amount of beating will correct their behaviour.
Maybe you could help him by teaching him how to control his anger. Teach him the count to 10 method. Before you gets angry, count to 10 and walk away. Come back only when you're cool.
My girl cries easily and usually very difficult to make her stop.
Hence, i usually will talk to her softly and then, if she cries harder, i'll stop talking. then she will soften / lower down her crying. I'll then tell her to count with me from 1 to 10. I'll repeat till she stopped crying. at the same time.. i'll say things like "i know it's hard / difficult to stop crying.. but please try, lets count to 10...
It works for me.. i hope you can find a method to help your son.
Best wishes!
2006-12-18 07:16:21 · answer #5 · answered by hale 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make him sit on the naughty chair every time he does something evil
less video games and violent films
perhaps tell him stories in which the "king" / prince wins by NON VIOLENCE
tell him that he shud count bfre he attacks his older brother
reward him each time with something lil
say B4 u feel like attacking someone think of prince so n so
:)
2006-12-18 06:45:21 · answer #6 · answered by YabbaJabba 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do you think it could be a phase he's going through? Has something changed in his routine / school / friends etc?
Is this behaviour out of character for him the rest of the time?
I would not look at disciplining him till I had looked at what was driving his behaviour.
2006-12-18 14:46:54 · answer #7 · answered by Sally E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is aggressive.............which means he cannot take anything hard on him, he can not even understand stuffs when he gets angry. you will have to tell him to be patient. tell him to listen to things fully, tell him to keep things softer, help him to understand things better....after allhe is just a kid. my sister used to hit me like that. but eventually you can see that i did have a role, may be your elder son has a role to. why will we have to provoke in him such a feeling. first let them play something smooth, let them divide anything they get into excatly 1/2 . if your elder son id not too old , get them the same thing, same colour, so they will never mind the diffrences. tell them to learn to share, make him understand that hi brother is his own brother, they are one family and there is no necessity, tell him beating can not bring up results. and it depends on the elder son too, if he keeps calm twice, if he does not respond the violence ,it he gives up silly fighting everything will be great.
with loads if love to one gr8 mother of 2 (may be more :D)
2006-12-19 08:25:17 · answer #8 · answered by angel gione 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time out , naughty step etc .. what would happen if his older brother retaliated would he continue to hit him ? Sometimes that is all they need , to see how it hurts etc , he may soon stop .
Good luck !
2006-12-18 07:14:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be consistent with telling him off for his behaviour. Also try chamomilla when he is being very angry, you can buy this at boots.
2006-12-20 15:08:16 · answer #10 · answered by LadyDeville 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋