My boyfriend dumped me when i needed him most, when i was going through a bad bout of depression. Everything in his life is suddenly going really well (he's got a good new job, new car and his band are getting lots of success on radio, just when i dont need to know!) and I'm finding it really hard to accept that he doesnt want me in his life anymore. Any tips and advice for getting on with my life? I know time is a healer but i still love him and i just cant get him out of my mind!
2006-12-17 21:30:53 · 23 answers · asked by Juniper 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you need to give it time as the heart is one of the most fragile parts of the human body. He has left you, yes, but this will only lead to greater things for you and I can guarantee that they will get much better for you. Just don`t expect it to be happening all at once as this is never the case with things like this.
You are hurting, I know, but give it a chance.
And remember, jobs will only last for so long, cars can get damaged and decent music groups are 10 a penny now a days, but you, you`ll go on forever!!!
Cheer up girl. You deserve better.
2006-12-17 21:37:36 · answer #1 · answered by dnlrawson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-05 16:38:27 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key thing to getting on with your life is simple: KEEP YOURSELF AS BUSY AS YOU CAN GET.
I know it's hard without the one you love but don't call him or act like you want him back, men usually want what they no longer can have, remember that. It really is true.
Go out with friends more, sign up for a class you are interested in. Finish some project you always wanted to do. Set up on a dating website. Think of anything to keep your mind off of him and one day you won't even have to remind yourself to keep busy it will just happen.
Keep your head up, there is life after love, I promise.
2006-12-17 21:34:05 · answer #3 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's left a void in your life that needs filling. There's no other way around it, you need to find someone else to fill that void. Go out with your friends and meet some new people. Trying not to think about it is just going to make you think about it more.
If you're really having depression problems, fall back on your friends or family to help you out. Just tell them what's up and they'll be more than happy to cheer you up.
2006-12-17 21:34:34 · answer #4 · answered by kegulate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we all go throu this times dont worry .... sometimes we are high and some others we are in the deepest whole
i am sure that u will bounce back very soon .... dont push ur feelings u have right now down , it will be much worse if you would do so ...time will heal and show u the bright side of life soon
have a nice xmas and try to smile a bit !
2006-12-17 21:39:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about how you feel, and ask him how he feels, even if he says the same things again, just take it on the chin, don't get nasty and make it worse, just listen as to what his reasons are, be serious, and ask him questions your heart tells you, sometimes its hard to hear something we don't like, but sometimes we have to, but we can also make it better too, and it is true if someone breask you heart you can still turn around and love them with all the little pieces, but in order to mend you broken heart, you need to talk to him honey, i'm sorry i may not be much help but i hope you get through this good luck,
2006-12-18 21:23:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
acceptance will put one foot forward on the road to recovery, but the only way to move on completely is to get the other foot out from the love that binds your heart to him. move on. give yourself a chance. love sometimes leaves scars that are impossible to erase but that doesn't mean that there is no life after we have been hurt and blemished. love hurts but no matter how deep our wounds are, time heals them. bear in mind that the most important thing that we get from a relationship is not the guarantee of permanence but the lesson that we learn from it when it fails.
2006-12-17 22:01:48 · answer #7 · answered by emma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been through it myself when my girl friend dumped me - she had everything going perfectly for her too. What I had fortunately was a good friend who I could talk to - I practically bugged her day and night, in the end she showed me that there is life beyond regretting and going through life about a person who did not care for me. Now I am happier, richer and in better shape than I ever was before. Eat that my EX-GIRLFRIEND. Willing to be your friend - if you need one !!
2006-12-17 21:36:33 · answer #8 · answered by Zach F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it won't mend is the honest answer. everyday, even every hour at the beginning, something will make you think of him and you'll feel like your heart is breaking all over again
its a sad truth, but time is the only thing, you will never forget him, but hopefully the pain will grow easier and you will learn to love again
2006-12-17 21:33:29 · answer #9 · answered by Angelic Julie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going through the same thing. He's completely ignored me without giving a reason why and it hurts bad. The only thing i can suggest is thinking of his bad points and keep saying to yourself that your better off without him,you deserve better.
2006-12-17 21:33:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋