I met someone at work and had known her for about a year, she is a really nice person. We did have sex a few times but this never got in the way of the friendship. She is 11 years older than me.
I had a period of immense stress with lots of things happening at the same time, my job changed, one of my colleagues passed away, I had to move back home after problems with the house and I turned to her for comfort. I know I was needy but I was at my lowest point in time, I'm 24. She didn't really offer any comfort and was sleeping around with other men and told me every time I became clingy I pushed her towards a man she had been seeing for 3 years who was living with his girlfriend. All I wanted was a hug and a kiss but she didn't seem interested. I thought she was my best friend, now she won't talk to me. Mainly because I told the guy she was sleeping around, I know I shouldn't of. Now she won't forgive me but I just wished she could of been there for me more
2006-12-17 21:25:51 · 7 answers · asked by dfsdg d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are such a fu*cking pu*ssy it makes me want to gag. I can't believe that we are both the same gender. First of all, you should not date co-workers. You will get filed for sexual harassment and one of you will end up quitting your job. You are an idiot for even considering sleeping around with an office chick.
Second, you sound like a little biatch when you say that all you needed was a hug and a kiss. You sound worse than a teenage girl. Go out and meet some girls and bang them. You will feel better. I guarantee it.
Now grow back some balls, buck up, suck it in, and take it like a man, you fu*cking wuss. It's over with her. She will actually respect you more if you say that you don't want to have anything to do with her other than casual sex.
2006-12-17 21:31:34 · answer #1 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didnt understand? Did u according to her push her to a man shes been seeing for 3 years who also is taken? Whoa some happening! I think she just wanted sex and thats it. She probably told you that and it wasnt a relationship.
Also can understand well why she wont talk to you, it was none of ur business who shes sleeping with! You werent dating or together.
You should have found a girl who wanted youa s a boyfriend, tahts the only way you can get what you need because shell be there for you!
2006-12-17 21:33:55 · answer #2 · answered by Kittykat 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you shouldnt of told the guy that. For her to come to you now, is like impossible!
You didnt push her towards anyone! She went to that other guy, cos she wanted to!
Have you ever considered the fact that maybe she was just sleeping with you and didnt have any feelings?
I understand that you wanted a friend, the sad truth is that many times ppl only know who their true friends are in bad or sad situations. The friends that are were there for you then are your TRUE friends. Be grateful to them and forget about this women.
She clearly was not there for you when you needed her.
2006-12-17 21:32:49 · answer #3 · answered by BadGirl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she is taking advantage of you and I think you need to try to move one! it is difficult to forget but sometimes it is the only way! there is no future with this lady and you know it too! Now you just have to gain the strenth to try to move on. It is easier said than done! You seem to be a really nice person so I am sure you will meet someone soon who makes you realize what a good relationship should really be about!
Good luck and be strong! You deserve someone who really loves you and treats you with respect! Go out there and grab her!!!
2006-12-17 21:30:09 · answer #4 · answered by INC0GNIT0 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is not your fault...If she couldn't be there for you, that is her problem. I'm sorry to hear about all the things happening in your life, and I know it sucks to hear that things can only get better, but that is the best advice to give to a stranger.
If all you wanted was a hug and a kiss, you will defintily find someone better for you out there, that is what a huge chunk of us gals want as well!
2006-12-17 21:33:38 · answer #5 · answered by rhodetryp21 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think she took advantage of your state of mind and having that younger man fling.
I would say let her go and don't think about her. She oblivously wanted her cake and to eat it to and you ruined that for her.
Don't be hard on yourself you needed someone and you thought she cared but she didn't. It happens. Learn from this and try not to get involved with friends in the future. Or at least don't get involved when your state of mind is going out of whach over bad luck.
2006-12-17 21:29:19 · answer #6 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You had no right telling that guy about you and her.
She never gave you any promises.I don't think that she is "a hug and a kiss person".
I sympathize you and i hope you'll meet someone who really cares about you.She is obviously not the right one for you.Not even a friend.
2006-12-17 21:33:50 · answer #7 · answered by amandarosallyn 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋