My financee lied to me a few times. I feel like an idiot. We are trying to repair the damage, but I don't trust him. I have been faithful and waiting on him for 2 years and he runs off on his R&R to see another woman. He saids they are friends. I am an attractive woman and had several guys hit on me, who were better looking, and some ex's that were a heck of alot better lovers. But I love my financee and he lied about going to see her. He lied about his location, He lied about telling his parents about me. I can't trust him. People say I need to let it go if I am taking it back. But he shattered my heart. I love him.
2006-12-17 21:23:07 · 17 answers · asked by taken2007 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it's understandable that you still love your fiancee even though he lied.but the truth is he lied and in a healthy relationship there shouldn't be lying.it may hurt but your better off finding a person with whom you can trust and that you know will never lie to you.i know it's hard it was for me too.but in the end it will all be worth it.
2006-12-17 21:31:32 · answer #1 · answered by boricua_queen 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You are delusional. You do not love him. You just said so yourself and you are totally contradicting yourself. How can love exist without trust? I've never heard of that one before.
You need to dump that little boy and let him be with his sl*ut whore. I don't care how attractive you are or how many guys hit on you or how many exes were better lovers. It does not mean anything to anybody at this point.
If you forgive him, he will think you're giving him the OK to do it again. You should not marry this guy as both of you are not in a strong enough relationship to see this through. Dump him and find another man. There are plenty out there, and your biological time clock is ticking away. Tick tock tick tock. You are just wasting your life away.
2006-12-17 21:56:45 · answer #2 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is something that is easily given, easily lost, and hard to gain back. If he is lying all the time, it might not be the best relationship for you to be in. Without trust, you cannot love. If he is trying to repair the damage, that is one step in the right direction but I know it's hard to not speculate everytime he goes somewhere.
I know it stinks to constantly hear "dump him" when you truely love him, I'm going through sort of the same thing. So best of luck to you and I hope you are able to work things out. If things don't work out, that means there is someone else better for you out there in the world.
2006-12-17 21:29:15 · answer #3 · answered by rhodetryp21 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Move on you cannot have a healthy relationship with someone that you do not trust. He lied over and over again you say, how will you ever be able to trust someone like that. It will be way less pain full now that it will be if you marry the guy.
2006-12-17 21:29:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He came back for R&R and went to see another woman? Hello?!?!?! That is a red flag right there! Why wouldn't he want to be with you if he truly loved you? Do not marry this guy! He will just cheat on you!
2006-12-17 21:28:04 · answer #5 · answered by His Angel 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
one can understand how u feel, but once trust is broken, nothing can repair it, u feeling helpless, u think u will b miserable without him and that the reason u not able to leave him, do some rethinking, u will find love , u will find better person, u need to have control over ur self and ur emotions, wat if he does again, i think u shudnt b with this guy
2006-12-17 21:29:29 · answer #6 · answered by hmmm 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that if I tell you not to ever trust this jerk again that you will just ignore my advice & keep on trusting him. You are looking for a specific answer & not really looking for advice, arent you?
2006-12-17 21:26:57 · answer #7 · answered by irmaynerds 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust is the key in any relationship. You dont trust him...
if you going to hold it against him forever then call it off.
Work out better for the both of you...
2006-12-17 21:27:27 · answer #8 · answered by BadGirl 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Dump the looser ..you got no future with him ..once a liar always a liar..you or any body else will never ever change that .. good luck
2006-12-17 21:39:02 · answer #9 · answered by JJ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why one set of values for you and another for him? Did you tell him the truth about your ex's? If you want an honest answer, you have to be honest yourself!
2006-12-17 21:27:03 · answer #10 · answered by Tom Cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋