I have an issue with my boyfriend that he gets sex when he wants it, but when I start trying to have sex with him...he changes what we are doing. He will do anything to stop it.This has been a problem since the begining of our relationship,but I dont know how to handle it.I did of course speak to him about how that made me feel.I told him that I thought our relationship should be equal and that I have sexual needs that he is treating like they dont matter.He usually responds to me,"sex isnt the most important thing in our relationship,right?"Then what do i say?When we do have sex, the sex is great!I hate to say it, but every time he has ever tried,I have never been able to say no.I just love him,and long for that connection we do have during sex.I dont want to be one of those sad girls that will just take what she can get when she can get it,but sadly I really have been.I want to feel like a sexy woman that can turn her man on!This has broken my selfesteem a lot! What should I do?
2006-12-17 20:43:21 · 8 answers · asked by LadyAlysse 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well this is most likely not what you want to hear. You need to dump him if he can't respect you. Because that is what he is doing he is disrespecting you and how you feel and what you want. He is using sex against you because he knows that you long for the connection. In a way he is making you beg and that ain't right. That is why your self esteem is in the pot. The only way to get it back is show him some guts. Let him know that you will not stand for it any more and you can kick him to the curb and go get one that respects your wants and needs.
2006-12-17 21:04:32 · answer #1 · answered by Sarcastic Sid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the problem with your relationship is,your b/f he uses you as a tool.to use as and when he wants.you said you cant say no.well if you want a two way road not a one way street then you have got to learn to say no.don't let him get away with it.the more you do it the more he will think he as a right.gone on the days where woman are subservient to men,be strong and firm.you got needs the same as him.stick to your guns,and it will work.don't give in no matter how much you want to.he's the one in charge at the moment,don't let him keep making the decisions for you.your big enough to make them yourself. if he wont change then its ultimatum time.its should you stay or should you go.that's up to you.don't let him win.weave your magic and he Will soon be under your spell.go on girl you can do it.don't let me down.if he loves you he will
2006-12-17 21:09:54 · answer #2 · answered by debra j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever happened to Men being the leaders in relationships.
Asexual society here we come.
Men are Women and Women are Men.
You know, regardless of these trends, nature will correct things in the end. There will be a war between the sexes and one side will submit, nature always fixes things.
2006-12-17 20:59:40 · answer #3 · answered by elisioloyd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is either taking you forgranted or he does not care about how you feel and will not want you to tell him what to do, or he probably will not want you to be life patners for it is dangerous for two to live in the opinions of one over thier sexual life. just let him understand how you feel about it, if he continue, treaten him that you will quit and wait for his responses, there and then you will know if he has your interest and that of the relationship at hand. then you decide on what to do. for the seek of your future happiness not to have a broken home. if you are a christian, refer him to the Bible where we are told to submit to one another, except for spiritual activities for you might end up marriege and he will continue exhibiting this odd character. good luck.
2006-12-17 21:13:24 · answer #4 · answered by BEKES M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to say it but you are headed down a long lonely road. You should be able to initiate sex just as your b/f does. It's a two way street! If he is unresponsive to your needs, he is being selfish! (I wish I had a girl like you!)
2006-12-17 20:48:35 · answer #5 · answered by the_pharaoh109 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meet some other guys for sex when you want it.
or hint that thought to your bf.
if he is really so self centre, you will also be at the losing end.
I'd say, lose him, you deserve better.
2006-12-17 20:48:01 · answer #6 · answered by ricodzeus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex after u both get married to each other sex is not love,it is fun but after marriage
2006-12-17 20:58:39 · answer #7 · answered by *niki loves all god* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth and be willing to risk loosing him,or continue to lose yourself....I think the latter would be worse....
2006-12-17 20:50:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋