my boy friend has depression, he knows, but doesn't want to do anything with it..?

Question

my boy friend has depression, he knows, but doesn't want to do anything with it.. lately, (after 4 years together) he told me, nothing can helps with his depression, and he just wants to be alone. its very hurtful to me, but i really don't know what to do.. help

Answer 1

Get him some nice shiny razor blades for Xmas, and then send him a card saying you are fat, miserable, stinking and I hate you - then let nature take it's course. Afterwards find yourself a decent boyfriend.

Simple really.

Answer 2

Try to get him to take a fresh fish oil for omega 3 (1 tablespoon a day), and to eat lots of healthy vegetables, fruit and some meat. He needs to avoid sugar and sugary foods like the plague. Anything made with white flour is the same as sugar. A good whole food supplement like Alive! or Garden of Life would be a good step too. To do something about it, usually is meant go to a counselor or doctor who will just want to dope him up on harmful drugs that don't even help and do hurt - permanently. There is an epidemic of mental health issues and depression in our country and it is due to the foods we eat. But this makes the pharmacuetical companies very happy - they get to sell tons and tons of their drugs. At least one drug, prozac, has as a side effect of withdrawal, depression. Isn't that wild? Most people think their depression came back when they go off of it when actually it is a withdrawal symptom they aren't warned about. Try not to take it personally. He can't help it at this point.

Answer 3

He's in denial and he has to come to terms with this and accept that he does need help, you can't take all of this on board yourself. A lot of people who are depressed feel that, "nothing can help me" "whats the point" etc. He needs help before his depression progresses, the worse thing is isolation, have you talked to his Doctor? They often say though, that they can't offer treatment unless your boyfriend goes to the Doctor himself. You could try talking to the community Psychiatric Nurse, they could pay him a home visit. Try not to pester him into getting help, this is likely to force him further into his own world. Is there someones else that can talk to him? like another relative? perhaps if he hears it from someone else. The thing is though from your point of view, if your boyfriend is refusing help then he is ruining your relationship, it takes two to make a relationship work and he cant expect you to put up with the hurt he is causing you. You could always try seeing a therapist? Try to get a different perspective perhaps. Hope I have helped, xxxx

Answer 4

Short answer - There is book called "Power of Now". It is spiritual guide, but very practical.Buy him a copy of the book.

Long answer - Depression is caused uncontrolled stream of thoughts most of which are negative. He needs to realize that life has ups and downs and if we take everything as it is without labeling it as good or bad, there won't be any place for negative thoughts.

Answer 5

you can't MAKE someone get help.
i go through my periods of depression, and i know that it hurts my husband to see me go through it, but nobody can make me get help, i have to do it myself. sometimes the person needs to be left alone. if they are suicidal, then that's whole other thing. talk to him, and tell him it hurts you to see him like this. don't think that it has anything to do with you.

Answer 6

tell him medication can do wonders! I take cymbalta and its like a miracle drug.and my depression entails getting over my husbands suicide.tell him to get help it works!!

Answer 7

if you do not what to do then don't force anything
if he wants to be alone ,why not
he makes decisions for his life...

Answer 8

ask him y he has depression.
Maybe u should make him get massages or do yoga!!~
Or disco dancing, it helps the stress.