I used to care a lot about what people thought about me. I couldn't care less now a days. I have a great personality, a great sense of humor, good looks, high intelligence, common sense, charisma, and am extremely talented. I say all of that to say this: I do not have a problem with my self image.
I just don't give a rip if I go on dates. I haven't seen someone I've been attracted to in years. When I do go out with women, it's more of a friendly nature. I don't really want to kiss, hug, or cuddle. I'm there for coffee and ready to go home alone. Anyone else feel like this or am I the only one?
2006-12-17 20:17:45 · 14 answers · asked by Wisdom Guru 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Alot of people feel this way. It's called being happy and not desperately seeking that one and only to bring you happiness simply because you have found happiness within yourself. It's a wonderful thing.
2006-12-17 20:20:59 · answer #1 · answered by surfer_grl_ca 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Man, I hate to say it, but you got married out of a sense of low self esteem and obligation. Now that you almost 3 years into the marriage, your feeling your strength and self worth. I read this just the other day. You just got done baking a cake, and it looks and tastes kinda funny. You then realized that you forgot to put in the eggs. Well, you can't very well go back and add the eggs now, the cake is baked. So the cake is basicly ruined. You can still frost it, and it looks all pretty, but underneath it still ruined and will still taste bad. This is kinda like a what happened with you. You went into this marriage knowing that you were not marrying him for the right reasons, and now your feeling kinda stuck. You can't go back and add the things to it that you want, because it's too late. Now, you can start communicating better or go to counseling, but that is also not guarenteed to work either. AND you now have a child in the mix of things. This is a very difficult situation to really have a good answer for. You deserve to have and be loved to the fullest extent, and if your not receiving that it's not fair to yourself to not be able to have that. I guess I'd start with talking to your husband openly about your concerns, if you haven't already, and let him know that your not happy and that divorce has crossed your mind and see how he responds. If he does care about you, and you don't threaten him on a regular basis with the big 'D' he may very well take you seriously and start along with you, working on bettering your marriage. And if he doesn't, well, then there's your answer. Sorry your going through this.....
2016-05-23 03:57:07 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound a bit hardend by a bad situation. I think many of us have been there, but after a while, you'll get back into the mix. No worries. Time heals all wounds.
2006-12-17 20:22:06 · answer #3 · answered by boredperv 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many feel like that.
In my case, I am like you in many ways, only the one I like disdains me because I like her.
Date her more often, not to find out when to hug her or what, but so you can find out if she likes you. Dating and dating would do to discover more.
Me? I express love by writing. You use your creative juices to express love to her. By writing you could put riddles in her mind, when you are close enough to her and if you think she likes you even just one bit of a friend.
When there's friendship, there's love
2006-12-17 20:23:39 · answer #4 · answered by Lordimpalerthe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I thought that i was the only one who felt this way! I got used to feelings like this!I think that under the surface, we really have insecurity problems! I am working on it!
2006-12-17 20:23:05 · answer #5 · answered by Roubini 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i like the way you developed your personality to a better one. Actually i need that too... but i cant change...)-:
Well about your question, my answer is NO
If im happy i wanna be with somebody to share that happiness (-:
If im sad im searching for a person or people to make me smile... i really dont wanna be alone and cold!
2006-12-17 20:26:31 · answer #6 · answered by dianne45a 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes.I do.I feel the same way..There's nothing wrong with it.Why mess around with someone you have no attraction to?Most people will,I find it useless and undesirable.
2006-12-17 20:22:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's because THE ONE hasn't come around yet
I'm sure when you meet her this will all change.
2006-12-17 20:20:57 · answer #8 · answered by Lara <:(((>< 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ahhhh. No, you are not the only self-assured adult out there....though it may seem so sometimes...Good for you!!
2006-12-17 20:20:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know what i know exactly how you feeland you know what else i want to take you out for coffee.????
2006-12-17 20:20:26 · answer #10 · answered by Romeo *Your Passion Provider * 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋