Is it normal for a 2 year old to....?

Question

ok... my son just turned two...
and his mother and i catch him playing with himself ALOT... and not just normal like pulling on it "what is this?" kinda stuff..
iv caught him humping the bed in his sleep..
he is always pulling off his diaper at night and playing with himself...

is this normal or is this a learned behavior..
the reason i ask this is because his daycare provider and mom are friends.. and shes told us about her sexlife and all...
she complains that no matter what she does her b/f is a cronic masterbator... i guess that he beats off ALL the time.. .. .
could it be that Georgie is seeing this and imatating...

but then theres the fact that he does it in his sleep....

like last night.. i walked in to his room to check on him.. and he was like grinding and humping the bed.. and he was moaning while he did it... now that is the wierdest thing iv ever seen in my life..
what is going on here?.. can anyone enlighten

Answer 1

Actually it is really normal and common believe it or not. Nothing to worry about. I read this when this became a concern for me....

http://www.babycenter.com/refcap/toddler/toddlerbehavior/11558.html
at this page this is what it says...
Toddlers masturbate for the same reason that older children do: It feels good! Bodily exploration is part of growing up. During the toddler years, your child will learn to run, jump, throw, pump a swing, draw, and (probably) "make all her poops in the potty." She may be just as curious about her genitals as she is about her fingers, toes, and belly button — and if she's recently switched from diapers to underpants, she may be able to get to them for the first time. "When parents first see this kind of exploration, they wonder 'is this normal?'" says Meg Zweiback, a nurse practitioner and family consultant in Oakland, California. "The answer is yes, you don't need to be concerned."

What to do
Don't panic. Not everyone does it, but masturbation is a completely normal thing to do. It doesn't cause any physical ills, pose any health risks, and no, it won't turn your child into a sex maniac, either. Masturbation in toddlers isn't sexual (as it is for adults) because toddlers don't know what sex is.. And while in older children explicit sex play is often a tip-off to sexual abuse or exposure to inappropriately explicit sexual material, this is extremely unlikely to be the case with toddlers, who don't have the imaginative skills for this kind of role adoption. (A toddler who's been sexually abused is more likely to become withdrawn or suddenly have trouble sleeping.) That said, toddlers masturbate because it feels good, and the good feelings can be as pleasurable for her as they are for adults. "A toddler may masturbate herself to orgasm," says Zweiback "complete with panting, red face, and a big sigh at the end. But it's absolutely not something to be worried about."
Ignore it. You may have already told your toddler that some of her parts are private, and that no one but her, or her parents or a doctor, gets to touch them. Many parents attempt to explain privacy during the toddler years as a way to head off sexual abuse, and it seems logical to extend this to masturbation. But it may not sink in for your toddler. "Privacy means nothing to an 'under 3,'" Meg Zweiback says. "It's not a meaningful concept." And, she adds, "A toddler by nature is looking to push buttons — so if you start drawing attention to it, you'll probably just get them to do more." Your best bet is to look the other way or immerse yourself in a distracting activity so you won't have to watch.

Distract her. Even knowing it's normal, even knowing lots of children do it, you'll probably be embarrassed if your toddler starts masturbating in front of company. If you can't ignore it or laugh it off, distraction is your best bet. Masturbation is a lot like nose-picking — children do it because it's there, because they're bored, and because their hands are free. If your toddler's hands stray toward her crotch at inopportune moments (in front of your in-laws, for example) keep a squeaky toy or other substitute handy to hand her instead. Invite her to do a puzzle, or play with blocks, or toss a ball around — anything that keeps her hands out of her pants.

Look to yourself. Parents' reactions to masturbation pose the greatest danger for kids. If your toddler is made to feel guilty for exploring her body, or made to feel that what she's doing is dirty or naughty, she may associate sexual or pleasurable feelings with guilt and shame. "If a parent is really bothered by it," Zweiback says, "it says more about what the parent learned growing up than it does about the toddler. Lots of people grow up with conflicting feelings about sex, and finding a place where you can talk these feelings through with other adults will help you handle these issues now and in the future."

Answer 2

Playing with himself... is normal... He has found that if he touches himself it feels good.... We all did the same thing... (just with boys it seems even more so.)

Dont punish or scold him for his behavior... it can cause him sexual issues in the future. if he is doing it in public redirect his attention and hand to some other activity. Thats of course untill he is old enough to understand that, this is something that should be private.

The bed thing, well, Im not sure on that one... Expecially with the moaning??? might want to investigate a bit further into this. Has he been abused sexually, or exposed to pornography?

Im a little confused, but IS IT THE DAYCARE PROVIDERS b/f Who is the Cronic ? IF so, WHY HAVE YOU NOT FOUND somewhere else to take your child?

If I thought my child was being exposed to someone jacking off all the time, I WOULD NOT HESITATE TO pull my child from there, and THEN Call the police, or licensing (is this a licensed provider?) to keep the same thing from happening to other children. SO WHat if She IS A FRIEND. I Would do the same thing if it was my sister, or even my mother.

Your child is your most prescious possesion.... protect them until they can protect themselves...

good luck

Answer 3

You need to take your son in and have him evaluated by someone. Don't say anything to the day care. Just tell them your boy is sick and might be contagious. They could be doing something to him with other children, you do not know. Best for you to find out. Maybe these people need to be found out. I'm so sorry to hear that there could be a problem like this and your boy has had a bad experience. I hope he recovers from it OK.

"humping the bed in his sleep"
"and he was like grinding and humping the bed.. and he was moaning while he did it"

These two quotes do not sound normal! And they do not sound like he is simply copying something he has seen! Something has happend to him.

Answer 4

Your son could have seen it from somewhere's and that is why he is doing that. But it is normal for a little boy (My son would also) play with hisself and pull at it but not no humping or doing it all the time.
Do you think someone might have done something to him? Consider that.

It would be normal if he touched it every now and then but not what you decribed.
I hope you find out what is going on. Good luck

Answer 5

He is totally normal. I have a son that did that for a while and he was 3 when he stopped. They are just sexually curious. I know it sounds weird but it's true. I raised my son alone and since I don't have a penis we all know he didn't see me doing anything. I was a single mom until he was 7 so he wasn't around any other males. I have a daughter now and she is 16 months old and when I change her she (she just started this) she touches her self and puts her fingers where they shouldn't go. I have to keep her hands occupied. Try talking to your son. I know he is little but he might tell you what is going on. I hope he is not seeing this type of stuff. Good luck.
Oh it was my sons doctor that let me know this was just a curiousty in kids.

Answer 6

You need to talk to a Dr about this the general curiousity is always a normal but humping the bed and just like playing with "it" continuously theres something not right there maybe you should take him to a child shrink if the family dr don't know what to do.

Answer 7

You must be living in a different planet. How can you guys say its normal for a two year old. He is a kid and thins things are too mature for him. There must be someone who is behind this. Are you trying to tell me his hormones have already stated growing to that stage i don't think so. Change most of things in his life like children he plays with, daycare even your friend who are very close to him. I don't mean you stop them from coming at your place but keep him away from them for i believe that someone has trained him or influenced him.

Good luck

Answer 8

awww hun i know how scared you must feel right now. i have two sons and they both have done what your little one is doing. i freaked when my sons did it too. my first thought was who has shown them how to do this.? have they been abused?i broke down crying to my health visitor who explained to me that it is a normal thing for them to "explore" themselves and the "humping" thing is normal too. it is just a way of them finding out about themselves. the only advice i can give you is not to tell him that its wrong or dirty just try and discourage or distract him when he starts. it sounds strange but thats what most kids will do around that age.
my thoughts are with you at this confusing time. god bless.

Answer 9

What you have described is not normal.

Are you sure he hasnt been interfered with?

Why would a 2 year old hump?

You should get him to a doctor to be evaluated

Answer 10

I think it is normal, and should not be stopped, he will stop it on his own, If you discourage it, it may make him ashamed..thats a bad way to handle this kind of thing. Its normal for little kids to masturbate, and to do so frequently. They usually grow out of it. {thank goodness} Good Luck