my boyfriend and i broke up about 4 months ago but recently after much fighting, separation, and then rejoining of each other, we realized we're still in love with each other. But the problem is that in the past week I've gotten to know a coworker of mine and he said he wants to date me. I am torn between the two. I know I want my ex bf more than anything but I don't want to turn down this guy because the istuation would be awkward and id hate it if he didnt want to be my friend if i said no i wasnt ready to date him. I am also taking things slow with my ex to see hwo they go. They could go either way. What should I do? I don't want to say no to the new guy. I kind of still want to see him as well and hang out.
2006-12-17 19:50:27 · 19 answers · asked by coochie1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we dated a year and a half my ex and i
2006-12-17 19:54:07 · update #1
Since you're not totally "back" with your ex, I don't see anything wrong with going on a "date" with the other guy. Just make it clear to both that you are confused and vulnerable right now, so you'd like to keep it platonic until you know what direction you should go. Who said a date has to be commitment or serious? Don't kiss or anything else on the first date, just get to know the new guy a little... then wait until you're ready to decide before doing anything with either... Dan't be a "player", that's mean. As long as your honest, they should respect you for that. If not, then they aren't the one...
Good luck!
2006-12-17 20:01:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really not hard if you think about it. You've been with your boyfriend longer, you know a little more about eachother than this other guy. It doesn't matter how you think things could go with him, you have a boyfriend. You two got back together for a reason, to work it out. You love him, act like it sweety. Don't get caught up in someone else, and ruin what you have. You could make a mistake.
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2006-12-17 19:54:20 · answer #2 · answered by krazy_libra_from_ac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself, Who can you really see yourself with a future with? Also, you know your ex, overall, is he a good person?? This new guy might be better, but i say date your ex. Tell him the situation and that you want to say yes, if the coworker really cares, he should understand. If you choose the coworker instead of your ex, and you break up with the coworker then what? Your ex and the other go won't want to date. I say play it safe, and overall, go with your true instincts..
2006-12-17 19:56:15 · answer #3 · answered by obiwan123866 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've gone through over four years of the make-up/break-up deal with the guy I still love more than anyone I've ever met.
Seriously, once that cycle starts it really never stops.
Try dating someone new for awhile.
2006-12-17 19:53:49 · answer #4 · answered by Frenzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not really fair to date both guys at the same time. Maybe for the time being, dont see either one. That way you can get your head straightened out, and figure out what it really is that you want.
2006-12-17 19:53:31 · answer #5 · answered by Immortal Angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This shouldnt additionally be a query experience u replied it urself. "ought to i pass after the guy that i purely choose intercourse with or the guy i needs a relationship" and then u mentioned "i dont opt to be a whore" to qualify as a none-whore u would not have interaction in one night stands and relationships that are purely in accordance with intercourse. yet whilst u wanna be a whore in spite of everything pass and function intercourse. Dont assume them to appreciate u or all people else for that rely. no person likes whores. And ur intercourse better half will pass away u for somebody he should be in a relationship with whilst he comes to a decision its time.assured. maximum in all possibility u heavily isn't the glaring decision experience he purely sees u as a solid time and not lady pal/spouse cloth. you recognize something he retains on the ingredient. stable success with ur dilema.
2016-10-18 10:41:45 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sometimes in life we all have to do things we dont want to do but at the end of the day your in control and everything is your decion you should go out with this other guy as mtes and see how it goes and then go out with your boyfriend then make the decion on whick one makes you feel good and then pick good luck trust me it works
2006-12-17 19:54:30 · answer #7 · answered by nicola 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do what you feel...
Keep things slow with your boyfriend...and give the other guy a chance...go out for a drink ONLY!!!
Don't make any quick moves.
2006-12-17 19:55:54 · answer #8 · answered by Soulla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could let them fight it out in the parking lot...
Actually, my suggestion is to date (not seriously, it's just dating) both and figure out who treats you better and who you like better. They even did something like that on the TV show Grey's Anatomy.
2006-12-17 19:54:15 · answer #9 · answered by Jack Schitt 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait your with a guy now, and you're thinking of the other guy. They call that getting away with murder. Be loyal to your man. If this other guy doesn't get that do you really want to be with a guy who doesn't respect that.
2006-12-17 19:53:24 · answer #10 · answered by alwaysmoose 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋