I'm not weak-minded,a little confused though,my resentment towards this person leads me to always losing enough sleep at night,i lose focus on my other priorities and it honestly brings me to some few tears asking myself:Why(did he do this to me)!But this resentment is brought from pain he cause me in the past..
2006-12-17 19:38:05 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
unless you are already planning the divorce don't get married or you will really be in a world of hurt if you can't get rid of the resentment the marriage won't last talk to him about it and if you still cannot resolve your issues get out now before you really hate each other !!!
2006-12-17 19:45:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a few questions you have to ask yourself.
1. Can I really live with it? Was it cheating? Was it malicious actions meant to hurt me?
We all have our degrees of tolerance toward some mistakes, but there should be a clear red line in the sand that would never change regardless. So...were those line [s] crossed? Only you can answer that
2. Will he do it again?
There are personality types known as sociopathic disorder. To sum it up, a sociopath is someone who doesn't feel other's pain. They could not relate to people and are only concerned abou themselves. This type of personality will always do horrible things, but find ways to smooth it over later. They see peoples' feelings as games. Again, you have to ask yourself, is he that person?
3. Can you live without him?
Well, can you? If not, why not?
4. Is being with him more "costly" than not being with him?
The cost I am talking about is not necessary money., though that could be a factor. What are you gaining from this relationship? If you have to put out a list on what you give and what you get, which is longer? Do you deserve the value he's given you?
When you lose sleep at night and lose focus on other things, it's usually bad for you. Although there are people who say that one should let "by gones be by gones," there is no better predictor of future than history. You have some very tough choices?
2006-12-17 19:47:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
purely analyzing your letter i've got self assurance the frustration you sense. i've got self assurance in relatives, and mommies, yet have you ever concept approximately giving soul custody of your toddler to you bf? Or joint custody? Than you would be waiting to pass on with your targets. I usually would not recommend this to all people, yet your bf sounds dedicated, and that's what your newborn desires. i'm no longer too specific its purely resentment you sense for him. If after 2 years you have no longer chanced on your authentic heart with him, i actually foresee issues interior the destiny.Is there a possibility you need to get your job lower back? those are purely some techniques. of direction your newborn is the main necessary subject, yet i think of you could make certain a manner so which you the two are happy. stable success!
2016-10-18 10:41:35 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is only one way to make this work. Draw a pentagon on the ground and light red candles in a circle around the drawn pentagram. Then chant "Wir mussen die Juden aufgetoten." over again 10 times. Then raise the ceremonial knife above your head and let gravity take it to home inside the body of the sacrificial bunny rabbit. Stab like a couple more times. Wear fur like hat, become model, make money lose resentment towards someone.
2006-12-17 19:43:14 · answer #4 · answered by soliberating 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Do you want to pursue someone that has hurt you? Do you love him. If so then maybe it would be possible to work out your problems with each other. You will have to communicate and negotiate. There will surely be problems especially if you resent him now, but if you really love him it will work. Trust your heart. You know what to do, don't deny yourself the things you know you can have.
2006-12-17 19:42:06 · answer #5 · answered by zelin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is easy. Love yourself, respect yourself, take care of yourself. If you do these things you will feel better about yourself and all around you will love you more sincerely because your cosmic glow will wow them. Who cares about this person if they don't treat you will the dignity and respect you deserve?? Be number one, because you are number one!! And don't forget it!
Good luck and Merry Christmas!
2006-12-17 19:43:40 · answer #6 · answered by Tiger Crane Master 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nom you need to get over it, let it be in the past or u run the risk of letting the past dictate your future
2006-12-17 19:39:37 · answer #7 · answered by surfer_grl_ca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to wait awhile on marrying. you might love him but i promise you. you need to wait
2006-12-17 19:40:37 · answer #8 · answered by rhonda3826 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you marry him...you are nuts...
This is how divorces start...
And you want to marry him?
2006-12-17 19:41:29 · answer #9 · answered by Aussies-Online 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
[. SURFER_GR]. IN MY OPION I AGREE WITH ON THIS AS WELL TO . ?
2006-12-17 19:42:35 · answer #10 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋