Ok so I have a great boyfriend who I love so much. More than anyone in the world and am absolutley in love with him. Well these past few days I've been thinking about some other guys that are my friends and I really miss them. But one of the guys I have thought about and can't stop getting images of him outta my head. And some are bad.. like of me and him having sex. and I cant stop thinking about it. What should I do? What does this mean--or is it normal? I dont know , it seems like I want to do that with him but I know if I do my life would be over because I love my boyfriend. But i feel like it's gonna happen or it needs to. Advice please?!
2006-12-17 18:56:55 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
this may not be what you want to hear, but...its called self control. you do not NEED to sleep with someone else! you are in a relationship and if you NEED to sleep with this other guy do the decent thing and break up with your boyfriend that you 'love' first. sorry sweetie if this seems harsh but relationships do involve sacrifices and in this case those sacrifices include sleeping with another guy. just for a few seconds imagine if your boyfriend had posted this question...how would it make you feel to know that he was even THINKING about someone else the way you are???? Dont cheat on him, there is no happy ending there. some might even argue that you have already cheated on him emotionally.
2006-12-17 19:01:27 · answer #1 · answered by supagrrrl84 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... talk to your friend and tell him your concerns. I would also tell him that you'd like to avoid him until you're "over" these sensations. It also depends on how old you are and how long you've been in your relationship. If you've been in the same relationship for a long time before the age of 22, then, sometimes you need to take the time and break up and play the field. If you and your bf were meant to be, then it will happen. It's ok to lust over someone, that's what can make things more interesting. Just look, don't touch.. that's all :-). It could be that you're bored in your relationship as well. Why not take the initiative to make it more interesting by going to an adult store. If you're still in high school though, I would reconsider the love thing (no offense).
2006-12-18 03:00:28 · answer #2 · answered by born2bfree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it's normal for a girl to be in a relationship, love someone, and feel attracted to other men. But that doesn't necessarily mean that you're gonna fall for them. It would be bad; however, to act on it. Both guys and girls have fantasies despite the fact that they're already with someone else. If you love your boyfriend THAT much, you wouldn't let that happen. You wouldn't let anything like that come between you guys. So as long as you don't act, everything is fine.
2006-12-18 03:00:31 · answer #3 · answered by Alicia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not unusual to have fantasies about other people than your significant other.
Unfortunately it's not all that unusual for people to act on those same feelings either.
If you feel that your loyalty to your boyfriend is more important than your desire to get some fresh booty, then be loyal.
Have sex with your boyfriend and pretend it's the other guy.
If your desire to be with this other guy just won't be denied, then let your boyfriend know that you plan to try out one of your male friends, and that he needn't worry about any feelings developing or anything like that. You just want to sample a different d*ck.
I'm sure he will understand.
2006-12-18 03:04:55 · answer #4 · answered by negrito con sabor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the reason you are thinking of this is because you feel a little bored with your bf. maybe you two have been together for soo long, and the freshness has drained. well.....we all fall off the track sometimes, but if you really do love your bf, you don't want to hurt him. so.....get away from that guy
2006-12-18 03:06:17 · answer #5 · answered by lillu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow sounds like your in a hole, maybe it's a sign telling you that you and your boyfriend are not meant to be together. You should really think it over, especially if your young. Good Luck!
2006-12-18 03:01:30 · answer #6 · answered by cassie05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be mayb ur not that into ur boyfirend as u tell urself....these feelings wouldnt be there if u were totally devoted to him....itz ok just make sure u figure out what u want more...ur boyfirend or this guy.....before someone gets hurt namely urself....dun wrry...it'll work out :)
2006-12-18 03:00:45 · answer #7 · answered by sanam9188 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you don't love your boy friend as much as you think you do!
You'll probably fool around on him.
Then you'll ask yahoo answers for help!!
2006-12-18 03:00:24 · answer #8 · answered by ~*~Tessa~*~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only an attraction. It's normal, so long as you don't let your hormones overrule your heart.
2006-12-18 03:00:40 · answer #9 · answered by supensa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kelly i think it is normal to have thoughts of other people..your human it is in your nature...the thing is if he had those same thoughts you would rip his nuts off.....don't act on them that would be bad if your going to just break up with cheating on him would be wrong....how would you feel if he did it to you....just think before you act ...
2006-12-18 04:59:48 · answer #10 · answered by Travis S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋