my 8 yr daughter is very well liked in school but some of the mothers of her friends dont like each other and therefore dont want their children playing together (sad i know) so whats happeneing is her friends are telling her not to play with her other friends (fighting over her) this puts her in the middle which is very unfair. i keep telling her that theres no reason everyone cant play together and not to let anyone tell her who to be friends with. now the mothers are calling me complaining about this and one even called me at work tonight informing me that my daughter and 3 other girls are meeting with a guidance counselor tomorrow about this drama. on one hand i think the kids need to work it out for themselves and on the other hand im upset that the adults are being immature and causing these innocent kids to have this senseless conflict. pleasr give me some ideas how to handle this, its been going on for a few years now.
2006-12-17 18:46:36 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
thanks sofie i needed to hear that
2006-12-17 18:51:12 · update #1
everyone gave me great input i cant choose a best answer thanks everyone for your support on this
2006-12-18 00:25:23 · update #2
How do we expect countries to get along when adults teach this type of behaviour is acceptable to their children? How sad that lessons on love ,kindness and respect have taken a back seat to teaching a very negative social reaction to their children .Hopefully common sense will come to these children before their parents do more damage.
2006-12-18 05:00:18 · answer #1 · answered by gussie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The guidance counsellor should shed some light on this. It;s good she is going through this, a great learning experience and sounds as if you both are dealing with it very well. Unfortunately some parents have the mentality of children and nothing can conquer that. Hopefully the counsellor will help these girls to see how immature thier parents are being and they will all reconcile.
There is not much you can do but what you have been doing, Be there to talk or listen when she needs you and support her. She will make the right decisions.
2006-12-17 18:49:21 · answer #2 · answered by surfer_grl_ca 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a ridiculous, and yet a pitiful shame that these people could not leave their adult differences out of their young children's lives, especially at school. Since it has already gone to the point where the school counselor has to be involved, then you ought to make an appointment with the counselor and talk to her about your concerns. I would. The children meeting the guidance counselor during what period of the day? Personally, I would not want my daughter's instructional time in the classroom to be interrupted one second more due to those stupid women, and I would tell the counselor this. It is not fair since your daughter is just caught in the middle.
2006-12-17 19:35:30 · answer #3 · answered by * 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow this is such a sad situation that seems to be happening so much now. I would call the school and inform them of your side as you sound neutral & the other moms may be giving this a spin. And secondly continue doing what you are doing as you are teaching your daughter well. It is such a shame the parents really do not need to be friends just toleate each other & allow their children to pick their own friends as long as they are not bad influences. Best of Luck
2006-12-17 18:51:45 · answer #4 · answered by notAminiVANmama 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think you should have this exact conversation with all the other immture mothers. Call them allover to your place, or even a cafe. Talk it out, let them know how they're hurting their kids. Give them examples of how each of their kids are hurting. Hopefully if any of the females are worthy of beign mothers they'll come around. Good luck. And your a good mother, to have not been sucked into the other "mothers" childish ways. Good job.
2006-12-17 18:49:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
Your child's stuck in the middle! Be careful to any plans cos it might just cause your child to be dumped aside when the mothers choose to stop the fight and wants to rest the matter by asking their child to stop the hangouts with your child. There's nothing much you can do, just leave yourself out of the fight and do what you think is right to do.
2006-12-17 18:55:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
maybe the school will straighten out the immature adults- ridiculous aren't they= there are squirrely parents out there and some think their poo poo doesn't stink- hopefully it will all come out in the wash- unfortunately peer pressure continues into adulthood- and never ends- it is what we do w it-that counts- some adults never grow up- or accept everyone or child-be guided by your heart and conscience=it sounds like it is in the right place-D
2006-12-17 18:52:07 · answer #7 · answered by Debby B 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋