What to do? My boyfriend wants another girl but wont admit it!?

Question

My boyfriend went away to visit a friend for a week and i had to stay home to work. When he came back he had made alot of friends but only 2 had kept in contact 2 women. It didnt bother me at first but then he wouldnt stop texting and got protective over his phone never leaving it and im ashamed to say i went n looked at his phone while he was asleep With one woman he was texting dirty and the other he was talking about cuddling her all night when they meet in january so i confronted him with it. He said he was just havng a bit of fun and nothing would ever happen because he loves me.
A week later he was still texting one the one who he had been arranging to meet and i found her saying how she cant wait to meet and spend time with him but i cannot read what he's put as he doesnt save him. He's often said im gona tell her to stop texting due to me saying i dont like it but it doesnt last.
I dont know what to do im scared its coming to a break up but i love this man so much.

Answer 1

Why do you want to be with a guy that would do this to you?? Why love him if all he is doing is hurting you like that? if you told him you dont like it.. and hes not really doing anything about it.. why care for him?
He could be doing it for attention.. seeing if you care.. or he could really want to be with the girls. Dont bother waiting to find out.
Either give him a taste of his own medicine(start getting close to some other guy) .. or call the girls from his phone and see whats really going on.

Answer 2

You have to put your foot down. Let him know once and forall that your the one he claims to love, thus he has to respect how you feel about the other two women, who he obviously sin't being "just friends" with. Evevn he has admit that and you have proof those girls don't have a very saintly relationship with your boyfriend through text messages/ If even after this he decides they're more important than you are. Or doesn't show any improvement in his behaviour then leave him. You can't love a man who won't be honest with you or one who won't care about your feelings. It will hurt for awhile, but you gotta break up with him if he stays in contact with the other girls.

Answer 3

he's playing you so badly!! personally if I'd been caught by a girlfriend texting girls (friends or not) those kinds of messages I'd expect it to be over cos I wouldn't expect anyone to beleive or tolerate that as a bit of fun. I'm sorry to say you are being really naive, he is taking advantage of you and he won't stop as he's taken it to a level where it just shows his massive disrespect for you, what a cheek! I'm really sorry but you need toi dump this **** and find someone that will honour and respect you, you'll never get this from him.

Answer 4

How CAN you love this man when he treats you so shabbilly? Apart from romance, sex and good times, a relationship should also be a support for a woman, not a source of stress and trust issues.
Dont just focus on his so called good qualities to blind yourself to the whole picture. What I and others who read your question see, is that he is a man who DOES NOT care for your feelings, your insecurity over his blatant misbehaviour. Trust me this is not acceptable and him pretending it is or just brushing it off is not going to make it so. He is brushing YOU off by not being a little sensitive and yes, a whole lot more trustworthy.

Please think about your situation carefully before you decide what to do.

Answer 5

Go for a 3 some with him. He wants some "strange" so the best way to keep an eye on him is have a 3 some. Just lay some ground rules prior to the gang bang.

Answer 6

I feel so bad for you, it's a horrible way to find out, however I have some good news and can tell you how to win your boyfriend back and make sure that he doesn't ever think of leaving you for another woman.

The only sure fire way to avoid a break up is to give your boyfriend something that no other woman would have the confidence to give him: the ultimate threesome.

All red-blooded men fantasise about having a threesome with their girlfriend and her sister or girlfriend, but there are very few women who have the confidence to arrange such a thing. What you must bear in mind is that "morality" is something that society imposes on us to control us, so don't think "ewww, it's my sister". Your sister is just another woman, and remember you are doing this to keep your boyfriend.

The beauty of this is that your sister or girlfriend will love and respect you enough not to steal him from you, so you know you can trust them.

Start to think of who out of your circle of friends would be liberal-minded enough to help you out. Don't take too long thinking about it, as it's your relationship you are trying to save, and time is of the essence, Since most women have bi tendencies, it shouldn't be too hard. However, some women are too caught up in the "morality" that society controls them with to admit it to themselves.

As beginners, you will find a couple of drinks will loosen you up before hand. You will need to think of some positions and work out what goes where, so a couple of trial runs with you and your sister/friend is a good idea. After you are confident in what you are doing, you may find you don't need those couple of drinks to get you started.

When it comes to the actual event, don't try to pretend to lezz it up - that's just so lame, so if you haven't practiced by this stage you're just going to have to give it your best shot. Even if you do it for real, don't just put on a sister on sister show for him - all three of you need to be involved. Both you and your sister (or girlfriend), should be giving your boyfriend some attention, kissing him, feeling his body, and then playing with him.

Not everyone has to be involved at every stage, but it gets boring just watching two others having sex, so don't hog all the attention! Try different combinations: you and him, her and him, you and her, all three of you. The one who isn't directly involved should be helping out by stroking and kissing the other two.

You should build up to the ultimate threesome's ultimate position, with you and your sister (or girlfriend) 69ing each other, you underneath with him giving it to your sister doggy style (maybe even with you stroking his balls, but go easy or he'll shoot inside your sister and there'll be none left for you), then you can swap over at half-time so he finishes inside you and your sister can lick his come out of you. Then you can wrap it all up with a three-way rainbow kiss.

After such an amazing experience, he'll realise that no other woman can give him what you can.

Let me know how it works out.
J

Answer 7

LET GO OR FALL DOWN

well, its official that he is not as faithful as he can be. if you can stand that your man flirts around (and be stupid enough to not do anything about it) then keep him. else look for other guys. you said you love him so much but does he loves you that much too? if he can cheat now, how can you say that he wont be cheating again? come on be realistic. i know (since you posted it) that you love that person that much but the question here now is do you love yourself too? how can you love others if you cant love yourself as much as you love your bf. do yourself a favor, and let him go. if he comes back then he is yours. if not then he never was yours...

i know its much harder to do than said but youll just keep on hurting yourself over and over and over again unless you have to put a stop to it... which do you prefer to be stabbed a million times until you die or to die now and live tommorrow? think about it.

Answer 8

Why don't you send a reply for him and lay it on thick with the kinky stuff - like how he wants this girl to dress in leather bondage gear and nipple clamps and have her pee on his face and stuff like that.

Then dump him, because he's quite obviously playing away and has as much respect for you as a shitty peice of used bog roll.

Answer 9

Your boyfriend doesn't seem to give you the same respect you are giving to him at the moment. If it was me I wouldn't stand for it. If he loved you as he says, he would not be texting dirty things to one woman and cuddly things to another - he wouldn't need to because he's have you.

Answer 10

Your friend is a flirt, You are lucky to know that. This is good thing, So you can judge your friend that what type he is ? So you will be care full in future go in long terms relationships.