especially when they know the punishment is less if they just tell you the truth?? i even give them a chance to come clean with no punishment but it still didnt work.
2006-12-17 18:35:43 · 7 answers · asked by Kathryn 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Let them know that there is a separate punishment for lying.
Example: 15 min Time out for pulling the cats tail. Reset timer, now it's 15 min for lying.
When time-out is through, make sure you stress they were in time-out for pulling the cats tail AND THEN, they were in time-out for lying. Stress that they would have only been in time out for pulling the cats tail, and from now on they will avoid any additional time-outs by always telling the truth.
Good luck!
2006-12-17 19:28:19 · answer #1 · answered by Cassiopeia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If caught lieing, truth later or not, Major consequences, eg;
1st time 1 day grounded - no outings - no friends over - no tv - no vid games.
2nd time 2 days same
3rd time 3 days same
4th time etc... etc... excelerating punishments, real consequences, and only one way to avoid them, telling the truth. No excuses, No giving in, If they tell the truth later, tell them they should have "told the truth in the first place". Stress this point.
after 7 days jump to weeks, by four weeks they'll get really good at lieing and try to out smart you, or start telling the truth. Even if the former they will soon learn or totally rebel. If after all this they haven't learned, and rebellion is eminent or occurs, then your child probably has an underlying issue hidden in the back of their mind, or they are possibly pathological. In any case if they can't learn honesty you will need medical or psycological help.
2006-12-17 19:07:26 · answer #2 · answered by Bob L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While decietfulness is a human trait, unfortunately, lying usually is a learned action. If kids see their parents lie about something, and get away with this, they think they can, too. Once learned, it is difficult to unlearn. It can be worse if the child learns lying through a tragic event.They need to learn that telling the truth is the best, and, of course, some form of punishment is neccessary when they do lie. Stress and reinforce truth, no matter what, and practice this by being an example to them. Good Luck!
2006-12-17 20:27:44 · answer #3 · answered by Mudcat007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit listening to them and give them equal punishment, the smart ones will come around and know it is smarter to tell the truth. The other ones ,good luck.
2006-12-17 18:47:54 · answer #4 · answered by Chris B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
er... they will eventually grow out of it.
little kids think adults don't know when we actually know, so they lie to get away with it.
when i was young i lied alot , but i've grown out of it,
it takes time with little kids !
good luck! (:
2006-12-17 18:48:20 · answer #5 · answered by missjolintan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't break children because usually they will grow up broke and it takes great courage to pick up the pieces, start by looking within yourself is the best answer I have to answer without more details
2006-12-17 18:45:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
encourage them to be open with you, and tell you what is going on, but you must not snap at everything they tell you... you have to sort of build their trust in you (not that they don't already totally rely on you or anything). I am telling you this from how my mother achieved this sort of thing with me.
2006-12-17 18:42:55 · answer #7 · answered by Miss Taryn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋