Me & my girlfriend had been going together for 2 years, Two weeks ago, I caught her red-handed making out with another guy,
I knew she had been intimate with him, because when I caught
her in the act, at her apatrment, she was wearing the see-thru
lingere I bought for her last Xmas. So I'm wondering if I should take her back, she's been calling me, wanting to aplogize, but I've been giving her the silent treatment.
2006-12-17 18:15:57 · 27 answers · asked by Lorenzo A 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let her say I'm sorry, and dump her!
2006-12-17 18:18:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What she has done is shocking. However you could do this. Forgive her this once and impress upon her that she is on trust and that once more and it's it. Now I know you'd probably lie awake at night thinking OH BUT SHE CHEATED ON ME.
However, a relationship, what is it worth. Sure she did bad, and must have some flack. But if you love her, forgive her, at least this once. You will have shown understanding and resilience. Two things that are vital to any marriage. Believe me, I know, Iv'e been married. She will see that you are big enough to forgive. I am not saying tolerate it, but forgive her this once. I think she has learn't her lesson.
For even if you dump her and get married to another, what happens if the same happens again? Are you going to sacrifice years of marriage, a happy family, children and all that love and hard work for one mistake? Remember we all are human and make mistakes. This is not to say it's ok. It's to make allowences to human beings. Do not throw away potential years of happiness for hurt pride and a genuine injustice. For come the time you youself might need forgiveness. Just think of this as an insurance policy on your own falibility. After all to err is human, to forgive-divine. Sure it hurts. Nothing great was ever accomplished without hurt. Good luck.
s
2006-12-17 18:36:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't even consider it right now at least. Sometimes people grow and change - but that would take time and reflection. She has not had enough time for reflection, and the fact that she is presuming that you would get back together after doing that kind of suggests she thinks your a chump. You don't have to become bitter about everything that happened between the two of you - but until she changes, no dice yo. And in the meantime, don't wait for her either. There are plenty of fish in the sea, maybe you'll find one who is better and causes less emotional anguish.
2006-12-17 18:22:44 · answer #3 · answered by starlet_8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i dont think you should. she will probably do it again. give yourselves some time apart first. maybe a month or two so you can heal yourself. dont talk or anything. after that see how you feel. tell you you want to do this first because if she calls on you at the end of this time, then she may really be sorry. but if she doesnt then you know she wasnt. she probably wanted you there for something else you provide while she gets whatever else she wants from someone else. at the end of that time you both get to see what it is you realy want
2006-12-17 18:19:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont solve anything by avoiding her. I know you are hurt..why dont you call or sms her then tell her that you need some time alone cos you need to think about what you want. Cos you really dont know what you want. If you love her so much, give her another chance. People make mistakes. Its not going to be easy; but you can if you want to. It takes time to forgive and learn to trust her again. Do you think you can?
If your decision is to give it another shot; then its time to meet her.
Sit down over dinner and tell her how much she has hurt you and betray your trust. ell her too, hows her feeling if you are the one who cheat?
Talk with her, even ask her why did she cheat and everything that you wants and need to know.
good luck; you will be okay..
2006-12-17 18:35:14 · answer #5 · answered by AlisonJonshon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do take her back, it's never gonna be the same. The trust has been broken and you can't have a relationship without trust. I agree once a cheater always a cheater. I've seen it time and time again.
2006-12-17 18:21:46 · answer #6 · answered by jade_143 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would continue the silent treatment as she has ruined the trust you had for her. i think she will not change...because cheaters just don't. it is a weakness she has.
she also has hurt you deeply..and you need to get over your hurt and then see how you feel. trust is important in a relationship, and now you have none for her...
2006-12-17 18:21:40 · answer #7 · answered by intelligentbooklady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude dont do it...relationships are built on TRUST and even if you forgive her and take her back, how canyou trust her?? there will always be that doubt. and i hate to generalise but unfortunately people who have cheated once usually will do it again - it just shows that they have no respect for you or for the sanctity of a relationship. I say avoid getting yourself hurt again.
2006-12-17 18:20:20 · answer #8 · answered by supagrrrl84 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's put you in a hard spot if you take her back she will just do it again because she will think she can convince you AGAIN to take her back trust is important and even though it hurts now you are probably better off in the long run let her go
2006-12-17 18:20:32 · answer #9 · answered by swolfshields 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont take her back,one a cheater always a cheater,did she have a good reason 4 doin that?n if she did,she shoulda broke up
2006-12-17 18:19:10 · answer #10 · answered by Young boi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her another chance, but once a cheater...always a cheater. Hope she proves my theory wrong for your sakes.
edit-damn tek took my answer lol
2006-12-17 18:18:02 · answer #11 · answered by sdchaldo27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋