why is my ex that dumped me months later being vindictive?

Question

Me and my ex broke up after about 12 months ...wed drifted apart because he kept blowing me off and not bothering to call...then wen he dumpd me it didnt come as a suprise..(although i had been denying it) it is his birthday and xmas coming up...is he regretting it...he has been bad mouthing me at work and im fed up...he also has been braggin that he left me for another girl...a friend of mine told me that she dumpd him 3 days later...he added me on bebo and now has blocked me after i left him a commnt wishin him a merry xmas...i thought he had grown up an was ready to be friends but hes just stabd me in da back...we had planned to go away for a week together before his b-day . I have started working at his work but ive only seen him once for like 3 secs in the 5 days i have been working there so fa...i only got a job there at a last resort but he dusnt kno that..should i ignore him or get payback ? y is he bein vindictive after all HE was the 1 that dumpd me..im sick of da lame games

i had allready applied for the job when we were still going out

Answer 1

just shows how selfish and thick us blokes can be.
he's in the wrong, but wants you to be at fault.
there are some nice guys out here, and i hope you find one special soon.
have a good Christmas

Answer 2

He wants to feel justified for dumping you. As Christmas approaches he does not want to be alone any more than you do. Sometimes being friends is not possible after a breakup. Too much guilt
If you opt for payback then you are lowering yourself to his level. Bad thing to do. It will show your boss the wrong message.
Do you remember when Lady Diane was accused of a sex scandal? She did not deny it. She ignored it. A few days later, the girl who was hired to portray Lady Di came forward to clear Lady Di.
Gracious behaviour, although difficult at times, is always the best.
Ignore the SOB and show your boss what you are made of. Class, grace, dignity.
Good luck, be positive and be the winner, not the whiner.
Merry Christmas

Answer 3

Maybe it would have been best if you hadn't got a job at the same place he works. It's only going to keep him in your life longer than is necessary, & it could be the root cause for his behaviour. Maybe he does know that you are working at his job now, & he feels some resentment, or believes that you are stalking him or something.

Forget the payback, that's just adding fuel to the fire. Just talk to him & let him know that you are ready to move on if he is, & if he isn't then if it were me, I would quit the job, so I could get some distance, & forget about him.

Answer 4

I kinda know what you mean, im going through a similar situation. The best thing to do is to totally ignore anything he does or says to you. eventually he will get the message that his games arent working. Ive finally got rid of my ex after him splitting up with me over a year ago. There are some decent men out there i promise. its just a matter of time and you will meet one and be as happy as i am now with my man.

Good Luck and have a good Christmas!

Answer 5

Want to know how to get your ex back? Change yourself. Don't worry about changing other people, worry about changing yourself. Go to https://tr.im/WQ7MW

Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.

The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.

Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.

Answer 6

Just ignore him. Guys like this are not worth your effort. Retailiation is the reaction he is looking for. Why give him the satisfaction? Don't even try to explain your side of the story to people. Its none of their business anyway. They will soon start to realise that he is just bitter and his antics will wear thin.

Hold your head up high and be thankful that you are no longer tied to someone who would treat you this way. It's amazing how his true colours show when he is injured.

Answer 7

He is a sour loser!! Forget him and move on! Do not even bother to call, write or wish him anything.Comfort yourself by knowing that you got rid of the bugger before the relationship had progressed any further. Move on!!

Answer 8

U shd jus forgit abt him n move on fer real, n get a job at burger king insted of McDs, hear mi now, check it aiiiiii

Answer 9

once I study your question i presumed the 18 month became bipolar and not on meds! ok for the daddy, your newborn desires a dating with him too! in all fairness attempt to handle continually protecting your youngster's protection first!

Answer 10

i would say move on and not give him what he wants ingore him...he probley wants you back or something but if you show that you are effected by what he does then he knows how to get to you....... dont sink to his level..... find another guy or something to keep your mind off him..... if you cant find a guy...try a sport or going to the gym or some thing