Okay, I've been seeing this girl--no, woman, and we're a pretty unlikely match really. But we mesh very well in a number of real ways, and I don't just mean sexually... We've had this screwy off and on again thing for several months. We can't seem to stay away from each other. But I feel like we may ultimately be doomed. The details are too numerous. It's tough because from the moment I first saw her I KNEW she was important. ****, I just don't know what to do. We can't go a week without some kind of problem. At the same time, we feel like we may be "it" for each other. Very difficult... What do you intelligent people think?
2006-12-17 18:06:24 · 16 answers · asked by 670000000mph 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i went thru the same thing. i thought it was meant to be, but it just wound up being 5 years of on again off again b.s. and arguments and everything else. ultimately, if you love her it is up to you what you feel you should do. but the longer you stay together the harder it is going to be to leave. and just because you feel that she is important and the best person for you, isnt always correct. just sit down and think about what is good and bad with your relationship, if the bad outweighs the good, even in the least, pack up and get the hell out. it will save you a lot of trouble.
2006-12-17 18:11:14 · answer #1 · answered by dreamzindigital_20 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and the girl are both delusional. If you were meant to be, it wouldn't be this hard. You shouldn't be having so many problems. It should come easy. If it doesn't, then you're with the wrong woman. Wake up. Open your eyes. You are totaly blind, and it's your fault for being this way. You are not in love. She is not the right one for you. You say all of these things, but you have nothing to back up your statements. Why did you know that she is important? Why? Why? Why? You don't know do you? You are on and off with her. Is this supposed to be a good thing and prove that you were meant to be?!?!?
Just get with another girl, and you will feel exactly the same way about her as you did with your current girl. Wake up. Get your head out of your a*ss and move on. Be a man. Buck up and stop being such a pu*ssy.
2006-12-18 02:12:37 · answer #2 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like both of you are playing out a fantasy. If your both married to other people or in some other relationships. It is not real. It will not last. Because once the fantasy is gone, so is the fun. If you both do not have other relationships. You have to put all you expectations on the table and talk it out. Much like a business merger.
Good Luck and Merry Christmas!
2006-12-18 02:11:52 · answer #3 · answered by Tiger Crane Master 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like you both doesnt know what you both want.
My advice: Time-out. Dont meet her or call her for 1-2 months and visa versa. Or, minimal contact w her.
You will be able to think clearly when you both are alone, figure out what you want, missing her, and finally come to the conclusion if you cant live without her or there is someone better out there for you...and visa versa.
All the best
2006-12-18 02:14:24 · answer #4 · answered by AlisonJonshon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like she is just a very good F buddy. Even though you guys get along, do you guys do anything else besides have sex and fight? Consider how serious your fights are and if they are worth it to you to argue with her. If it's little things, you need to learn how to compromise and sometimes not "talk back" for the sake of your relationship.
What is a screwy thing?!?! sounds like mish mash.
I think you really need to consider just how important it is to fight over what it is that you guys fight over. If you feel like this is the right woman for you, you must learn to adjust yourself a bit to make things work. Compromise, talk it through, there is always a solution to your bickering.
take a step back and re-evaluate what it is about her that makes her the one and what about her make you feel like it's doomed...
2006-12-18 02:13:30 · answer #5 · answered by Alicia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should persist with this relationship. That you knew she was important from the first moment you saw her speaks to something within you that connects with something within her. It may seem confusing and frustrating and even totally not worth it at times, yet you have a connection and you both know it. Acknowledge that and work at being together.
2006-12-18 02:18:49 · answer #6 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you may need to walk away from this one....at least untill the timing is better! You should not have drama every week in a relationship...this is not a good start... no matter how good of chemistry you may have...there must be other compatibility too! Good luck!
2006-12-18 02:11:08 · answer #7 · answered by photogram1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you feel like you are doomed, then you probably are. can you stand some drama and problems in your daily life? evidently not.
you can continue the relationship until you both have had enough or you can walk away from it. the choice is yours.
or you can concentrate on the things you seem to agree on...and just avoid other subjects...
sometimes the attraction is worth it...i know...and other times it is nnot.
2006-12-18 02:17:36 · answer #8 · answered by intelligentbooklady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is hard to let go and once u 2 are seperated you'll realize how much you miss each other,so u 2 might as well get married 1 day
2006-12-18 02:10:30 · answer #9 · answered by Young boi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first you need to communicate with her and see if you can work the kinks out. Because it sounds like you have strong feelings for this girl and nobody has the luxary of being flawless.
2006-12-18 02:50:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋