why is it that some familys have to hit u to show u they love u and some familys actually hug and say they love u? is it my fault do u think, cuse im bad and i make them mad? im sorry to be annoying and bother you all so much im just trying to wait for them to sleep b4 i can sleep and then ican elave in the morning after them n go ot the hosp which im gonna go in morning my ribs r swelled and my shoulder 2 im sorry for bothering people so much and im sory for being annoying and bad i wanna make sure i can take my stuff with me since they prolly will call the police im gonna pack my bag n get my sleeping bag to from the basement which is right by theyre room i took some tylenol n asprin to help and it has and im sorry im bothering people and im sorry its my fault tho so icant be mad i always look at em rong im to messy to annoying and im sorry u think ill go2group home? wat about siter& bro im really sory ill stop wit qustions sorry i never called the copsb4 not a kid that helps rite?
2006-12-17 18:01:05 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
last time i ask anything ipromise i swear im sorrry im so sorry i promise please dont be mad at me
2006-12-17 18:01:41 · update #1
i mean iknow they were both raised the same way and im pretty sure they loev me and i just got to come back home after running away when i was in 9th graade nd its been 3 yrs almost so i want them to love me cuse ive been back for a few months and its not been this bad but its been getting worse but i mean i know its cuse i make them mad and im scared to get them intoruble cuse i love them i love my whole family i need to take care of them and protect them not make the cops take them away im spposto get a job and help out and keep us togeather not tear us apart i think everyone would hate me if i did that i wuld hatemy self i think cuse im bad if i do that thats bad rite?
2006-12-17 18:12:06 · update #2
If this is real, you get off the computer and call the police right now. You ask for charges for domestic abuse to be filed, or child abuse if it applies.
You ask to be taken out of the home and put into another situation until things can be righted, if they can.
Best of luck.
2006-12-17 18:05:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious?
Hitting someone is not saying, "I love you." I don't know how old you are, but if you a child, the doctor has a legal obligation to call the cops if you have been abused. The cops are there to help you. If you have visible marks and scars on your body, then show them to the cops.
Your being "bad" is not a reason for them to treat you as less than a person. Having a messy room or looking at someone wrong is not an excuse to hurt them mentally or physically. Family Violence has a lot more to do with the abusers being unable to control emotions than it does your misbehaving. You may also be the "scapegoat" in the family- the person everyone hurts when they need to take out their anger on someone.
What will happen after that I can't tell you. I don't say this to get you not to say anything, but you need to know the reality of what might happen so you do not get discouraged: Even if CPS gets involved, it doesn't mean that you or your brothers and sisters will be removed from the house. If you are placed in a foster home, it doesn't necessarily mean that you will be placed there with your brothers and sisters. If you can get no help from CPS, Find a counselor in school and try to get their help. There are also women's shelters out there that can help you and will keep you anonymous. Don't hide the abuse. You have nothing to be ashamed of and it may take more than one incident to have CPS take your case seriously. If absolutely no one can help you, lay low until you are a legal adult and can leave without fear of being reported as a runaway.
Even after you get out, abuse will still happen to your siblings. Do your best to get them out, but since you are their sibling and not their parent, you may not be able to. They may even be turned against you to "punish you You might become the "enemy" by "telling" on the people who abuse you. Let them know that you are always there for them and don't give up.You can't blame yourself if you get out and they don't. You are going to have to be strong and brave- which I think you are. The violence is not going to end until you are out.
Again, go talk to your school counselor and ask him or her about family violence. Once you get out of this situation with your family, you need to continue talking to someone.. just because you get out doesn't mean that you cant be harmed or won't feel the effects of this violence for many years ahead. Family violence includes a lot of emotional and psychological abuse which will cause you to have low self-esteem amongst other things. You will be prone to getting into another abusive relationship (boyfriend/ spouse) or you may become an abuser yourself without help.
I wish you the best. Again, remember: YOU DO NOT DESERVE THIS.
2006-12-18 02:29:26 · answer #2 · answered by slaughter114 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have the whole family situation twisted around and simply because you probably don't know any better from being in that environment. NO, people DO NOT hit you if they love you!!!! That's sick, and THEY are the ones with problems, not you! I don't know how old you are but if I were you, I'd find some way to get away from that situation before your whole life is ruined forever.
2006-12-18 02:07:10 · answer #3 · answered by Nancy D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are like me in same and diff ways. i suffer from depression. i like to do things that are bad for me because it enhances the depression. i used to get help and meds but i lost my job and now i cant afford them and i am also into pain and making things bad. i thrive on it. i wish i didnt. but without my meds i am lost. i understand completly what you are going thru. wish we coukld talk. but i know you cant e mail me or write me. i will pray for you, i did find God and it helps but i am still so sad and i also just want to leave and just live in my car and not deal with anything. i have family but i sometimes wish i could just hide from them and hope and wish they try to find me. i also am very depressed and hopeless. but please talk or write me. i keep trying to understand how God will help us thru our hard times, and maybe we can help each other, or at least we will have an understanding that no one else has about how we feel. write me. duckhouse@nnex.net
2006-12-20 21:44:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they don't beat you to show love. get help for all of you
2006-12-18 02:06:41 · answer #5 · answered by space case 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋