I have completely given up on Love.?

Question

I screw up everything with girls, they like me and I get shy then they quit talking to me eh.....My job is making me even more depressed because I see couples which hurts, because I have nobody myself. But right now there is a girl I like and she likes me, we've known each other for about 2 months, I need to talk to her to get to know her better but I know it's not gonna work, so I'm gonna give up and probably disappear from everywhere....

Answer 1

I was in the exact same situation, but it was a girl at school. if you are sure she likes you, how do u kno its not gonna work? u say u become depressed when seeing other couples. depressed ppl have an extremley negative attitude towards many many things and can be very convinced by there thoughts, so stop relying on assumptions and just try approaching girls every time u like them. if u are rejected, just try again and again and you won't be shy or scared of being hurt anymore. its like facing any other fears in life, u will become less nervous after experience.
there is never a reason to give up on love, as a shy guy, u might be missing one very important aspect of attraction, confidence. it completley transforms a guys image in the eyes of a girl, u can ask girls and deep down they kno its true, and u dont seem to have alot of it. so here are sum tips
-dress really well like as if ur on ur first date, all the time...trust me it helps alot becuase u will be more confident AND u will be more eyecatching, also making u more confident
-stop trying to interpret signs, because u can make a big deal out of silly, meaningless actions u notice from girls just because ur full attention is on them
-stop caring so much about wanting a romantic relationship and how to act etc. the more important it is to u, the more nervous u'll get and u'll get alot more discouraged. shes just a girl, and if she isnt interested in u, y does tht make her worthy of ur affection anymore? she turned down an offer of honest and ongoing affection and love, so who do u think the looser really is?

stop being so negative about it, its not worth disappearing from everywhere because its not tht important if u dont make it tht important. become more assertive and positve when approaching girls, they like tht. u can smell the coffee and end the doubt by facing girl after girl knowing tht one will like u sooner or later, or u can just give up and let it consume u mercilessly. its ur call

Answer 2

lol what a beg for help this is. But no fear bro. This is your moment, this is that time in your life where you step outside of yourself and you do something that completely isn't you, and this may even have such an impact that it will change you for forever. It sounds like you aren't really ready for just a HUGE leap, but rather, you should simply ask her to take a drive with you (if you have a car). Take her out to nature, do something that will blow her mind by doing this. Most people will ask the general "so, do you wanna come over some time?"....but no, you're not going to do this. You're going to take her to the most picturesque place that you know of, and you're going to show her that you're not just Joe Blow. Make this move, and you will tear down so many obstacles that are in front of you.

peace and love,
rob

Answer 3

Yeah. I said that every time a girlfriend dumped me or I dumped a girlfriend or I didn't have a girlfriend.

This love thing is not a matter of choice. It chooses you. So give the love thing up and work on making, saving, and investing money. You'll need lots of it when the love thing does happen to you. And it will. Especially when you're not interested in it.

I give you six months. You're prepping yourself to be a target if you follow my advice. Otherwise, you'll just be an emotional wreck and women don't go for that.

Answer 4

Well as someone that's a bit older than you are, allow me to pass this along: One of the things a man has to come to terms with is approaching women and dealing with the consequences. Some men never learn to deal with rejection. They tend to become the control freaks and spouse abusers that give Men a bad name. No one likes to be rejected, but trust me there is not a Man alive that at some point hasn't approached a woman they were really interested in getting to know, and ended up being rejected...Yes it happens to the rich...the famous...& the attractive. ALL men have felt the sting of rejection. What you need to do, is try and understand yourself. What puts a smile on your face...What things in life are YOU passionate about? Then you make your life around those things that are healthy, and bring you joy. Remember a woman is not a key to happiness YOU are. A good woman is like a lens that magnefies that happiness. The better she is the greather she will enhance your life. So ease up on yourself, discover yourself and those actions will attract the women to you. Like a flowering garden attracts bees.

Answer 5

Dont give up on love, sometimes things seem to go wrong all the time, but you can have some say in that. I understand that your shy, but would you not prefer to give up your shyness for a bit instead of being lonely for a long time? Although it seems like things go wrong everytime your with a girl, things happen for a reason. Talk to this girl, give yourself a chance. Look at this way, if you dont take a chance with her, or anyother girl for that matter, out of fear, you will never know if it would have worked out. And what you have to do is keep trying until one day you will find the right person for you, otherwise your going to have a lot to think about on your lonely nights.

Answer 6

I have given up on love myself! No girl ever wants to be with me and it seems like people don't appreciate me anymore. I'm at the point that I feel like I'm gonna be lonely the rest of my life and I'll never be with a girl that loves me and I can love her.

Answer 7

If you take yourself out of the game, don't expect her to try to drag you back into it. By that I mean, you have to want to be in the dating game - flirting, and possibly flailing sometimes, and getting back up and trying again. Perserverance can be very sexy - if you know what you want and you know what you are going to do to get it, even if it is hard to get. That's how the geek ends up with the belle of the ball every once in a while... he shows her that she is what he wants, and he will do what he needs to do to impress her. Not that I'm advocating stalking or anything!

Answer 8

Time to be straight as an arrow and trust you me I will be. You keep talking to yourself like that and you'll end up all alone as you have been.
You have to like your self before you can get any one to like you. It is as simple as that. There are no short cuts, that's the way it is.
You have to present yourself as a person who is the thrill of every girls life. You have to present yourself as if they miss out on you they are really missing out on something.
Practice conversations in front of the mirror of what you want to say to this girl.
STOP CUTTING YOURSELF DOWN OR SOON OTHERS WILL JOIN IN.

Answer 9

you shouldn´t be so pessimist about love, i believe there´s somebody for everybody in this word, you will find her, but you must know that people that think that don´t have any luck will continue without luck, in any aspect, but optimist people will always have good luck. If this girl weren´t for you for any reason you´ll find somebody else. Everything is in your head. Change your way of thinking and you will see... don´t give up :)

Answer 10

Do something about it and get your courage up and talk to her! You've got to take action or nothing's going to change. Don't give up so easily.