um... im only 14 but guys are always taking advantage of me. i have been sexually harrased more times than i can count, and it turns out that my ex didnt even like me in the first place, and he just asked me out cause he was desperate, so i dumped him. i am really nice, and i just feel like i will never meet someone who actually cares about my feelings and doesnt use me. please help.
2006-12-17 17:42:26 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you have been sexually harrased, and you have been used... I'm sorry but then it's your own fault, nobody ellse's... And shame on the guys who did this to you, but you really need to learn who to trust, and who not?
The best advice I can give you, is... DO NOT TRUST ANYONE except yoursellf hang in there, and you will find the guy who really cares for you someday, you are still young and there is plenty of time left for you to meet new people just hang on, and don't just open up your'e heart for any guy, otherwise their'e just going to take advantage of it, they need to earn your'e trust, and confidence...
Take care
2006-12-17 17:59:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are just a baby so don't give up so soon. For the next few years most guys will behave badly. Once in a while a prince shows up instead of a toad, but not too often. Don't feel the pressure to match up with a guy. You have so many other activities to enjoy now, not the heartbreak that comes with boyfriends. You will meet someone nice if you stay away from the jerks. When I was your age I hoped to find a really nice boyfriend, and at the beginning of the summer a family moved in two doors down. And guess what! Instant boyfriend!! We were the hot couple. Best of luck to you!!
2006-12-17 17:50:05 · answer #2 · answered by whrldpz 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
at 14 you will not find some one special
neither at 18, 21, 25..
but as you get to about say... 29 or so
that's when ( hopefully ) you have your head screwed on straight
will have a career going
have your own place, car ect.. life
and no focus on guys seriously
maybe you have dated a little
but you not desperate
if you maintain your looks
you be sought after by guys
otherwise if you play the fool
and do not believe in yourself
you life will be one of always compromising for the sake of not being alone
and that's a terrible way to live
2006-12-17 17:52:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you will. Be patient. At 14 you don't need to push a relationship. It will happen in time. Just take care of yourself and work on building friendships first. The guys that sexually harass you are not mature enough to turn off that little brain in their pants. That or their morons!
2006-12-17 17:53:30 · answer #4 · answered by Ta Dah! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't rush it. you're 14, finding "the one" is not only impossible, but it'd be wrong. you'd never have the chance to live before being chained down. the special someone you want will come along, and when they do you'll know, so until then, just have fun with whoever you wish. and believe it or not, there are still some of us decent people left, so you've got a selection;)
2006-12-17 17:49:44 · answer #5 · answered by Pyromaniac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know of any who dated at 14 and got married. Until your 18, nobody you date is probably looking for long term since they can't live on their own or anything. Talk to one of your older friends on how to tell if a guy is faking or real, sure some can see through the playas.
2006-12-17 17:46:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to calm down...u are only 14...lol j/p i'm 14 too!! ok n-e ways...the right person will come along but i jus need to be patient....maybe its the kind of guys that u pick....y dont u go out with a guy that u no really well and so no surprises...wat i mean is like u find out somethin that u didnt no before about him and u wil no how he will react to something.....so keep your hope up cuz the right person will some along soon..bye and good luck
2006-12-17 17:51:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to take a break.
You can't be happy with someone else until you are happy not being in a relationship. Hang out with your friends. Find activities that make you happy (music, sports, etc.).
Once you are happy with yourself, you can see much more clearly who is good/bad for you.
In a relationship, the other isn't supposed to fill a void. They are supposed to complement you.
Don't worry. You'll find someone to make you happy. Work on you right now.
2006-12-17 17:48:52 · answer #8 · answered by q_midori 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LMFAO! Your EX? Um...sweety, that term is reserved for divorced persons, not 14 year-olds. Anyway, good luck. I'm sure you'll find someone eventually, you have a whole life ahead of you.
2006-12-18 02:49:39 · answer #9 · answered by admiring_lurker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a special someone out there for everyone. sometimes you go thru a few trial relationships before you find the right one but that special one will come around.
2006-12-17 17:46:41 · answer #10 · answered by thompson j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋