People keep saying to get the attention of a special someone (say a woman) you need to "show her that she is missing something". What does this mean and how could I possibly know where to start? I thought the whole idea in pursuing a woman was to learn more about them. Can someone shed light on this and provide perhaps some examples? Much appreciated :)
2006-12-17 17:37:40 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dude, forget all that. Just go over to her and ask her if she'd like to do something with you or get some coffee or something. If she's into it, she'll agree and you go from there. Scary? Yes. A risk? Yes. But that's the way the game is played.
2006-12-17 17:40:29 · answer #1 · answered by Underground Man 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The people you are talking to are suggesting that you make her see something in you that she doesn't have, or thinks she doesn't have, and would like to have - in order to make her interested. The thing that they are basically advising is manipulation. It does work. The catch is that the woman who responds sometimes actually does think she's missing whatever it is she sees in you, and is insecure in that way, which has it's problems. If she later becomes secure, she also might stop liking you. (That is not to say that it is a good idea to keep her feeling insecure, that is cruel.) But by the time she feels more secure, hopefully, she'll have found other things to like about you.
Good luck.
2006-12-17 17:43:36 · answer #2 · answered by starlet_8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to a bunch of guys who are moving from one woman to another.
You are on the right track. Learn about her, get to know her, and then see if you are right for each other.
Don't just go for the grand prize at the beginning, earn the right to be intimate and you'll be truly rewarded.
Some guys think that you'll "show her what she's missing" by having the girl you want see you with other girls who are hanging all over you. In other words, you must have a lot to give, but she's not getting it unless she devotes herself to you.
Don't do that. Get to know her and you will be much happier than the jerks who try for a new girl every night.
2006-12-17 17:43:46 · answer #3 · answered by nw_big_skies 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it means you need to be her constant companion first and foremost so that when she is without you she feels like there is something missing in her life. Show her the respect she deserves by taking her out and just spending quality time with her doing as many ordinary day to day things as possible without forcing yourself upon her in any way - i.e. let it be her choice to spend time with you and if you are caring enough and listen with an open mind she will seek your comapny. You can always take it to another level when you think she is ready - she will probably start wondering why you don't try something with her and then she will want you even more.
2006-12-17 17:44:20 · answer #4 · answered by Tequila Sheila SA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose they mean that you should demonstrate to her that she is missing things that you could provide like strength, protection, security, etc. I would feel a little creeped out by a guy who would tell me what is missing in my life. That's somewhat presumptive. I think your approach is better. Learn as much as you can about the person, look for common interests, and maybe get the lady to do a little dreaming with you about her wishes for the future. Head games are pretty lame.
2006-12-17 17:43:36 · answer #5 · answered by whrldpz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've never heard that expression!!! But I guess the concept is; "she is missing ...YOU"
To "pursue" some one would be to get their attention!! A smile, or a greeting like "Hi" would be a start. You just need to be pleasant, charming, Witty (women really like a guy with a sense of humor..but keep it clean> not trashy!) And helpful when needed. This is hard to answer not knowing your age, but if you go to school together try to be on hand to open the door, help her with her books, and things like that. Chivalry is not out dated with the girls...they still like a man to be helpful. It is also important for you to have plenty of self confidence!!! Don't be too shy, or she may think you are some kind of geek or nerd. Good luck in your pursuit!!!
2006-12-17 17:40:10 · answer #6 · answered by photogram1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sigh. Who's been giving you this advice? That's terrible.
Look, if you want to "pursue" a woman, you need to just talk to her. However, you also need to remain constantly aware of the fact that you should NOT care if you get anywhere with her. If you truly believe this, you'll maintain an air of confidence and only passing interest, a surefire way to get a woman interested in you. If she knows you're enamored with her, you're dead in the water.
2006-12-17 17:40:59 · answer #7 · answered by Steve 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about "missing something"part.But if you want to get someones attention,there are a lot of ways.As simple as it can be.Be a gentleman.Male sure about her well being.Listen to her and care for her.Have great respect for her.And these days looks are important too.Just try to look clean and sharp.I am sure any woman sees these qualities in a man,would be interested.Good luck.
2006-12-17 17:50:37 · answer #8 · answered by avavu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try 2 make them a little jealous but not by kissing another female...talk 2 alot of females & when she asks u if u have a gf,say no...u kinda like a certain female but arent sure if she likes u & tell her the females u talk 2 r only friends. Then ask her if shes interested in u & ask her out.
2006-12-17 17:42:10 · answer #9 · answered by PinkLove6 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who told you that?
The best woman to get involved with is one who doesn't feel like she's missing anything.
If you are trying to make her feel insecure, that would only push her away.
You are more on track by saying you just need to learn more about her and let her know how much you appreciate her exactly the way she is.
2006-12-17 17:40:46 · answer #10 · answered by q_midori 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋