Purely hypothetical situation: if you thought your bf/gf (I was going to include spouse, but I guess a committment is involved there, no question) needed to clean their lives up (pretty significant changes), what would you say to them (assuming they had yet to acknowledge they had a problem, but not to say they didn't recognize it)? Would you say something carefully to try and get them to seek help? Would you tell them straight up, get help or goodbye? Or maybe even just leave w/out a word? (I guess also assume the relationship is about dried up anyways but care and hope they get help for themselves in the future)
2006-12-17 17:37:35 · 4 answers · asked by randyken 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well if i'm gonna be with someone, i'm either gonna except all of them and lead by a good example or i'm not gonna be with them at all.. people have to learn on their own and constantly nagging someone to clean up their own life doesn't make them jump and do it, i'd let them figure it out for themselves and be loving and stand by their side :) :) :)
2006-12-17 17:42:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your guy or gal has a problem. Know that you can't change a person. A problem needs to be admitted by that person. they are the only ones that can make changes. Should this person have a strong family support system or even close friend.You can talk to them and express your fears. You can always be a friend just don't become an enabler
2006-12-18 01:46:30 · answer #2 · answered by michele b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell them and help them to get help, if they refused then it would be over.
You can't help those who don't want to be helped.
2006-12-18 01:45:06 · answer #3 · answered by Engel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I'm not buying all the luggage that comes with you"
2006-12-18 01:41:09 · answer #4 · answered by watcherd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋