So, my boyfriend and I've been going out for some time now. We really love each other. I know he's obsessed for me. Yesterday, it came up in the conversation, and he told me that while he loved me, but I was still with my ex boyfriend, he masturbated thinking about other girls(porn). I was tottally chocked! I'm sorry if this question is weird, but i dont mean no harm, i really, really need an answer. I really love him... and I wasnt in love with him at the time... but still, its disgusting! What do you think I should do? :(
2006-12-17 17:33:32 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
grr sorry, i didnt explain myself right... while i was with my ex boyfriend, the guy im with now did that at that time
2006-12-17 17:39:54 · update #1
While I don't agree with 'anything' pornographic, I must come
to the defence of your boyfriend.
He loved you when he couldn't be with you, and like 'most'
healthy young men sex is a BIG part of a fulfilling relationship.
Well, he couldn't be with you intimately and why would he torture himself by fantasing about making love to you.
I believe the reason he chose to view think of other girls while masterbating,was because the desire to be with you was too tormenting for him, and something I don't feel he could deal with very well.
Wouldn't you rather know that he masterbated while thinking of
other girls instead of 'actually' going to bed with them.
He's human, dearie.
Don't be too hard on him, especially if you love each other.
It's time to forgive him 'totally', and enjoy the rest of your lives together.
Consider the fact that at least he was honest with you about this.
After all, he didn't have to tell you anything, did he..
2006-12-17 17:48:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to find a man that doesn't masturbate to porn? Good friggin' luck, lady.
I doubt you can understand men in this regard, but porn is not cheating. An image of a woman is being used as an aid just like a woman might use a sex toy; it's the same concept.
If you hound him about it, you'll either just irritate him or he'll lie and say he stopped while he still does it behind your back. Just drop it.
2006-12-17 17:36:58 · answer #2 · answered by Steve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As bad as it looks, masturbating is perfectly normal. And yeah, a lot of men masturbate to porn. So its up to you to move on with your relationship and leave that in the past. You say you really love him, and love, real love is total acceptance of the other person. You have to accept their good traits and all of their bad. You could always look at it this way, he masterbated to porn when he was apart from you, when you are with him he wont need to masturbate any more, so no more masterbating to porn....
2006-12-17 17:39:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get over it. Men love porn. It doesn't make him any less committed to you.
If he had said that he masturbated while thinking about your best friend or someone else you actually knew, then there would be a problem.
2006-12-17 17:36:58 · answer #4 · answered by q_midori 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Look, there is only one kind of guy that doesn't masterbate. That is a guy with no thumbs.
You can accept that guys are 80% about sex or wait till you are ready to accept that.
2006-12-17 17:38:30 · answer #5 · answered by khanofali 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds natural, all men do that now and then.
its a man thang, just dont get fantasy mixed up with reality
2006-12-17 17:43:57 · answer #6 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
all guys masterbate to porn. they have to release it somehow unless you or someone else will give it to him anytime he wants it. be happy hes not sleeping around. masterbation is normal. everyone does it even if they dont want to admit it
2006-12-17 17:37:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go with what ur heart is telling you...masturbating is gross but normal....if u do it with him maybe he wont masterbate anymore...just a thought.
2006-12-17 17:38:59 · answer #8 · answered by PinkLove6 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is perfectly normal. Most boys his age do that. Don't blame him for that. Get him more attracted to you!
2006-12-17 17:36:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
forget ur ex...and go wit ur true lover or follow ur heart young one
2006-12-17 17:36:39 · answer #10 · answered by apballerXXX 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋