My girlfriend has a nasty habit of ignoring me when she is with her family.
I have done my best to explain to her that I feel unappreciated when she acts as if she is too busy to call me when she is with her family.
(Sometimes all I want is a simple "hello"; and she knows that).
She always makes me feel as if I am being too clingy and expecting too much from her when I complain; yet she has no problem calling ME when I'm with MY family.--AND she expects me to talk to her.
Anyway, I stopped calling her altogether when she is with her family. I stopped acting so clingy, and now I just wait for her to call me when she isn't so busy.
So why is she acting like I've done something wrong?
Isn't that what she wanted?
She is accusing me of playing games; but I think that I am merely adapting to the treatment that she gives me.
Women, please give me some insight.
2006-12-17 17:30:03 · 17 answers · asked by negrito con sabor 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That is what she wanted you to think she wanted, she is being unreasonable and unfair to you, she needs to make up her mind, I know you know you can find someone who will appreciate you, you dont have to be taken for granted, wish my man would call me more.
2006-12-17 17:37:12 · answer #1 · answered by Ms. Q 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This might sound stink but i think that you should move on and find some1 that wants to hear from you everyday, you sound like a really nice guy and she will soon realise that. I know that its important to be with your family but it dont mean that she cant talk to you to, it only just to say hello and how are things, gee not as if you want to talk to her all day on the phone and you aint got anything else to do. but really maybe saying to her that its not working and see what she says to that if she says that you are right then she might not be into the relationship as much as you are.
2006-12-18 01:46:12 · answer #2 · answered by Bex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah yes, women like these sort of psychology games. We don't admit it, probably because we do it subconsciously, but we all do it. She doesn't really have time to talk to you when she's with her family, but she still wants you to want to talk to her when she's with her family. This is famous for a woman to do. We don't want to talk to you, but we need you to want to talk to us. This goes for many other situations as well like say she gets mad at you for not helping clean so when you do help she might take over or complain about how you help. The hidden meaning here is that she doesn't want you to actually clean, she just wants you to want to clean. The thing is, you can't tell her you know this because she will deny it because well, she probably doesn't realize she's doing it. So just call her every now and then when she's with her family or many send text messages instead. Just say that you know she's with her family, but you just wanted to let her know you were thinking of her and just wanted to say hi. She'll love it!
2006-12-18 01:43:23 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know her age, really doesn't matter. She is acting spoiled and immature.And honestly, women do not like clingy men.I would do 1.When she calls tell her you are very busy and will return her call later and see what she does. 2. dump her, she may not be that into you.Relationships should be more balanced than that.
2006-12-18 01:44:34 · answer #4 · answered by gabeymac♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well ... my boyfriend and i were going through this a little bit ago.. because i was doing the same thing she was when i was around my family .. we talked and he exclaimed all he wanted to do was hear my voice because he loves me that much.. i realized he really cared and that i was being an asshole... now if roles were reversed what i would do is... treat him exactly how he treats me and when he ask why I'm being like that my answer would be this is exactly how i feel when you treat me like this! ... worked plenty of times 4 me!!! because i can show you better that i can tell you!!!
2006-12-18 01:44:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if she is the one playing games. She can't have it both ways. If she is to busy to talk to you when she is with family, but gets upset with you because you are to busy to talk to her when your with family, perhaps you should find a new girlfriend that would appreciate you.
2006-12-18 01:37:23 · answer #6 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a guy and this is from my point of view.
She must not be allowed to date, or is not secure enough to bring you into the family.
I won't go so far as she is ashamed of you, but just not secure with you yet.
2006-12-18 01:35:44 · answer #7 · answered by khanofali 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give her a taste of her own medicine.That is of coarse after really explaining her your point.When she does call,just tell her you have been busy.If she doesn't care or get your point or make some kind of difference,then move on my friend.She is not interested.
2006-12-18 01:40:33 · answer #8 · answered by avavu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds spoiled, get an answering machine and let a robot answer her phone calls so she can leave a message.
dog eat dog world
2006-12-18 01:35:10 · answer #9 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her, tell her what she wants,because you know we woman's sometimes don't know what we want until things happens and complain. Just what happen to you, you know sometimes we want our guys always give their attention to us.You better talk to her,so that you know what you'll do. How you stand in your relationship.
2006-12-18 01:45:47 · answer #10 · answered by aleish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋