Should I tell my boyfriend?

Question

I did something wrong..I cheated on him on our 2 month anniversary (I kno, it hasn't been long but we both want it to last)... and I want to tell him, but I don't want to lose him. He treats me extremely well. I didn't go too far, but it was enough to call it cheating. If I was him and I found out, I wouldn't want to be in this relationship...what should I do?

Answer 1

Well if you didn't want to lose him, you wouldn't of cheated on him.

So, you should tell him, unless you want to keep a relationship going based on a lie.

Just remember, if you can do it, he can too. Or maybe he did before and just decided not to tell you, just like you were planning to do.

Answer 2

OK you are going to have to be really honest with yourself first...The important thing is that is did not go too far. In a time of AIDS that old tale of what you don't know can't hurt you is no longer true. So if sexual contact is not an issue. You have to ask yourself some very important questions...#1 Are truly regretful and in your heart you know you will never do that again. If you think there is a chance that it can happen again then tell him. #2 Knowing what you know, and your state of mind about it. If the roles were reversed would you want to know yourself? If the answer is Yes then tell him. #3 Are your ready to truly make this a part of your past. What I mean by this is: say a few months down the road you find out that that he cheated on you. Will you throw this in his face? If you think you'll be tempted to do that, then tell him. And lastly # 4 If he errors in the same way, will you be as forgiving with him for one slip, as you have been with yourself? If you can't then tell him. Good luck on your decisions, often times being honest with oneself is the hardest thing of all...

Answer 3

2 months is not a long time to be in a relationship. You can't possibly have a strong solid relationship with a man in 2 months. What you need is some self control before you go around messing with a good guy like this. You don't deserve him right now. You should tell him and be honest about what happened. He might forgive you -but if you don't confess it - you'll just end up doing it again and eventually he'll find out that you're not the person you thought you were. The longer you wait the worse it will feel for you.

Answer 4

Hi Nay Nay !!!

If you did not have sexual relations with the guy you cheatted with , don't tell him. But youhave to promised yourself not to do this to yourself again.

If you had sexual relations with him, don't tell him, nut just leave him. Be the one to end the relationship. At least be honest with yourself. And the only reason that I'm telling you is because
it seems to me you are NOT ready to commit to any one yet.

The reason that I'm advising you NOT to tell is that once you tell otehrs are going to know, I don't think you want to create a negative situation, or epople gossiping about what you did.

Be smart, and if you think that you want something else is better you end in good terms, rather than for some body else.
And make your boyfriend, feel inferior, and ashamed, when infact
it wasn't his fault you cheatted on him!!! Why put him through some sleepless nights and heartaches, when it was your fault??
Just leave him. Go out and play, let him find some body else!!!

Lesson #1- Do you know what you really want?
#2- If you gave this other person one opportunity,
What are you missing, with your boyfriend?
#3- Look for the real reason why you want to stay
with him, LOVE is NOT. When you love some
you respect him.
Be careful, this could become a problem in all your relationships.
Probably is you have to examine yourself, and find out why you had the need to do what you did.

GOD BLESS YOU
MERRY CHRISTMAS & HAPPY NEW YEAR
ALLIV Z

Answer 5

If you really like the guy, I wouldd tell him and be honest. You wouldn't want him to find out on his own now would you?

He treats you well and you don't want to lose him. You might of just given him a reason to not trust you now. Trust is a big issue in relationships, once that is gone there is nothing else. Your a smart girl to say or even know that if the tables were turned you would not be in the relationship.

I would say something to him if you think it might happen again. If you are having feelings for other people then I would suggest that you speak up before it prolongs to getting caught.

Answer 6

Relationships take constant work. I would tell him, but i would also let him know that your willing to work on this. Because one day he may do something stupid that may need your forgiving. You two are human, and humans make mistakes. And if he really wants this relationship to work he will be willing to forgive and work at it with you. Just try to explain to him why you done it and what your felling were after. Because sometime people cheat to vertify there feelings for there partner. If you cheated and felt bad and then knew you loved and wanted your boyfriend, then i think your feelings are sincere. Just next time you feel an urge or a attraction to someone else that may end in cheating discuss it with your boyfriend. Best of luck to you.

Answer 7

I don't think you have to tell him, but I do think you have to break up with him. Here's the thing: if you've cheated on him only after 2 months, your just not that into him. You are more into yourself, and having your fun. That's fine as long as you admit this to yourself. If you decide it really is worth all the emotional crap you will put the both of you through because of your admission of cheating, because he really might be something special to you, fine, tell him. But I really doubt that is the case, people sometimes seem so much more special to us when we know we are about to be seperated from them. Just be honest with yourself. If you think you aren't into him for a long term relationship, where you would be willing to help him through all of his feelings of grief and betrayal and whatnot, then just tastefully bow out of the relationship without telling him. At 2 months, it shouldn't be too traumatic, and you save both of you from having to go through tons of emotional baggage.

If there is a chance someone else will tell him about this, then suck it up, you have to tell him. Good luck.

Answer 8

Before you worry about whether to tell him or not... you need to sit down and have a think about why it happened. Maybe you don't really want to be in a relationship, but you don't want to be the one to end it.

Once you've decided why it happened, next you need to think about why you want to tell your boyfriend about it. Do you want to be honest with him, or is it merely a way of making yourself feel better?

I've been in this situation before. When I sat down and thought about things, I realised I was insecure in my relationship, and my behaviour was a way of giving my boyfriend an out without making him seem like the bad guy. I regretted what I'd done and I wanted to be honest with my boyfriend and sort things out, so I told him what had happened, we talked about things, and we're still together now... which is nearly 6 months later.

Good luck.

Answer 9

I would tell him because if it does get out and he hears it from someone else later down the road it is just gonna make things harder to deal with, besides you were only 2 months into the relationship...

Answer 10

If you decide to tell him you will probably lose him,or he may stay and never let you live it down,if there is no way that he's going to find out your best bet is to keep it to yourself,its not the right thing to do but it's your best bet when it comes to keeping him.But if there is a chances hes going to find out from someone else its better that he hear it from you.Either way you have to live w/ what you did!

Answer 11

Sorry but if you cheated you must not wanted it to last.
Tell, the sooner the better like they say it wont go away until you tell.Good Luck