To expand upon rachel p's question.
If Monkies never let their babies cry it out, because it would attract predators, and no other animals think twice before responding to their babies needs (Can you imagine momma bird sitting their chicks squeak saying "Nope, 15 more minutes before I feed you") And yet all animals end up self-sufficient and non-clingy.
Also crying it out is a relatively new form of parenting, and is hardly practiced world wide. Many societies practice attached parenting almost exclusively.
Why can't you, at least accept that crying it out or controlled crying may not be the ONLY way to raise a respectful well behaved child that will grow into a responsible, independent adult?
Why must you, at every opportunity say that crying is the ONLY way? Do you really believe that every other way is wrong?
2006-12-17 16:59:58 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I always responded to my son's cries immediately and it made an enormous difference. He was a very contented baby and is now a very happy, bubbly toddler who is quite easy to manage. Babies cannot communicate in any way other than crying. Can you imagine how traumatic it must be if they're "asking" to be reassured and loved and no one responds?? If anything, I would say that if you want your child to be insecure and not be a fully functioning adult, please go ahead and let them cry.
2006-12-17 19:17:02 · answer #1 · answered by Liv05 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is. I subscribe to the belief that you can't spoil a child under 1 year old. So you never let them cry it out. Now you might stay by the crib and rock them instead of picking them up, or wait a minute after you hear the first cry to see if they settle down. But sustained crying should not be ignored when they're that little. By age 2 they will know how to manipulate you with fake crying, so you will have to get better at telling the difference between that and real distress. But up to a certain age (you have to decide) I think it's best to respond to your baby's cries.
2006-12-18 01:07:54 · answer #2 · answered by braennvin2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know who this commentary is directed at, but it is ludicrous to think that you can "spoil" an infant. Actually, you can spoil an infant, by making him/her feel extremely insecure when you do not respond to their needs in a timely manner. I never even considered letting my child "cry it out", and ALL my kids are responsible, independent adults.
2006-12-18 01:12:57 · answer #3 · answered by It's Complicated 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I have two sons who are healthy well adjusted little boys that are respectful to others not just their elders and who are not clingy momma's boys. I would let them cry for a few minutes. I did not drop everything to run to their side but I did not let them cry it out. If I was in the bathroom they cried till I was done. If I was washing dishes they cried till I was done. Then I would go and comfort them.
2006-12-18 01:09:17 · answer #4 · answered by freakyallweeky 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I never let my daughter 'cry it out'
There is a great book called "The Continuum Concept", put that on your holiday wish list.
It is a must read for attachment parenting.
2006-12-18 07:06:05 · answer #5 · answered by Becca 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes all you can do is let them cry it out!! If nothing makes them happy put em down!! If you don't they'll just stress you out.
2006-12-18 18:16:16 · answer #6 · answered by flierchic 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you go mad kitty!! Best answer in my book.
2006-12-18 02:19:04 · answer #7 · answered by dexter 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋