i been dating this girl for 4 months this wednesday and i love her. We fell in love..real quick and i do anything for her. I help her pay bills, take care of her awesome brother, help her mom, help her mom pay the bills, buy anything she wants, help her with hw, whatever she needs help with i help her, help her friends, everything she has trouble with i am there for her. I make a *ucken effort to do what i can do, But she treats me like crap. I been trying to find a way to talk with her, but she so hot headed..it always get blown away. I am not looking for something in return. I just wanted her to show me that she love me. We use to sit and talk and everything, but now i get nothing from her. I feel this painful feeling in my heart, and i dont want to lose her, but i cant take much more. PLEASE help me...i am dieing here..everday i deal with her i want to cut off my arm...=( because of her i am thinking about seeking therapist.
2006-12-17 16:47:44 · 15 answers · asked by aznromeo4ever 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This Girl although being very rude, from what it seems, I get the feeling that she is scared. She seems to be pushing herself away from you, because you are giving and helpful beyond what you realize. she is hot tempered with you, because she knows she can't do it without you. Take her out to dinner, and talk to her. Just you and her, and reassure her that you care about her, but you can't keep going on like this, explain to her that you like helping her, and that its okay to need help, everyone needs help, tell her you need her. To love you, and trust you, but she has to be a little more grateful.
Be Calm, don't loose your patience, and listen to her, don't talk over her, don't raise your voice.
Wishing you all the best.
Good luck.
2006-12-17 16:56:12 · answer #1 · answered by Zig 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all there is nothing wrong with talking to a therapist it can be very helpful. I have been in your shoes and watching my brother-in-law go through exactly what you going through right now. You are being taken advantage of in the worst way. I watch how my brother-in law is treated and it sucks. Your friends and family must not like it either. Best advice is too cool it off for a little while and see if she even cares. It will suck for you and it will hurt a lot but the saying that time heals all is really true, i promise. Best of luck and consider the therapist it may help alot.
2006-12-17 16:59:37 · answer #2 · answered by jweh8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is the key to a good healthy relationship. Perhaps if you write things down on a piece of paper before you speak with her this might help you a bit. Write down what you think is most important to discuss. Example, spending time together talking like you use to do. When you love someone and this love is not reciprocated it is painful.
It is good that you can voice your problem and discuss it. This always helps to resolve things. And yes even seeking to speak with a therapist might help you. It is always good to gather advice and make your decisions.
I wish you the best.
2006-12-17 16:59:52 · answer #3 · answered by bettyslp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
break up with her!!! you can always still be firned and wait awhile and alwasy tryt things out again. break it off withher. and if she aks why tell her all of this. she doesnt seem leiks he cares nor respects your efforts. stop spoiling her and giving all your money to her family and everything,,,, just be firneds for now and see what happens int he long run. you can find a girl otu there who will treat you better. especially this has only been after 4 months! she isnt the one for you! if shes Already liek this...leave her. you dont need to seek a therapist... just be friends for now. tell her the truth.. try tot alk to her. tell her not tot talk back. mybe she will understand?,,,doesnt seem liek she will change though... dont spoil your next girlfriend so either...
2006-12-17 16:53:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as if you are being used. If she is blowing you off like that then you are a relationship of convience to her as hard as that may be to hear. Put an end to it and let her realize just how much you do for her when you're not there to do it. There are too many other girls out there that appreciate nice guys to have you waste your time to only get hurt.
2006-12-17 16:55:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are such a loser. She is using you. You will not earn her respect if you keep letting her use you. You should start to treat her like crap and ignore her and make yourself unavailable to her because you are seeing some other girls. This will get her very jealous and very screwed up in the head and she will do anything she can to please you. Trust me. This works because women are really screwed up in the head.
2006-12-17 17:05:53 · answer #6 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesnt appreciate you,so u need 2 get a new gf...try tellin her how u feel two more times & if she doesnt listen or somethin like that,break up with her & find a new girl who isnt the same as her.
2006-12-17 16:54:50 · answer #7 · answered by PinkLove6 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU SOUND LIKE SUCH A GOOD PERSON, THAT DESERVE
TO BE WITH SOMEONE THAT WILL APPRECIATE YOU, SHE
DOES NOT AND YOU SHOULD LEAVE HER ALONG, THE
LONGER YOU STAY IN THIS THE HARDER IT WILL BE TO
MOVE ON, AND YOU SHOULD LEARN THAT A TRUE
RELATIONSHIP TAKE TIME TO GROW.. SO NEXT TIME
AND IT WILL BE A NEXT TIME TRUST ME. TAKE IT SLOW
AND YOU WILL SEE THAT WHEN YOU SHOW LOVE
WITH SOME ONE THAT FEEL AS YOU DO,THE LOVE WILL
BE RETURN. GOOD LUCK.
2006-12-17 16:56:34 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a rescuer, my friend. And she is quite a user.
Please, please see that therapist. You deserve to have your sweetness returned and to let up a little. You don't need to do so much. Your love is plenty. You do more for her than I expect from my husband.
Save yourself, baby. You are in one bad room.
2006-12-17 16:52:27 · answer #9 · answered by outdone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude get away from her. Nobody should make you feel that way. That girl isn't worth your time or effort. Do you think that little of yourself? She's using you!
2006-12-17 16:52:49 · answer #10 · answered by loveyoumuch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋