My fiance called off our wedding and engagment and i am totally devestated! He's the kind of man that makes a descion and holds his ground. Ive been waiting to marry this man for 3 YEARS and now, everything is gone down the drain! I have no idea what to do because i am totally crushed! HELP!
2006-12-17 16:30:07 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I went through this twice with the same man. The first time he called it off three and a half months before the wedding and I lost around 3000.00, the second time I fell for his crap he called it off three weeks before and I lost an additional 1000.00. Finally I just said if he doesn't want to marry me after four years then he isn't worth my time anymore. I was devastated, I was completely depressed but I'm wasn't letting him have me any longer without that committment and I wasn't waiting for him to be ready anymore. I just kept myself busy with my friends and went out every chance I got, and pretty soon I was dating again and I loved it then a year later I found my current husband and I'm so glad that happened to me. My ex tried to get me back, especially when he saw me happy with another guy but I didn't budge, he hurt me beyond reason and I wasn't gonna let that happen again.
The key thing to do is: KEEP YOURSELF BUSY. And don't give him the time or day again.
2006-12-17 20:00:58 · answer #1 · answered by LC 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
At least he called the wedding off, rather than marrying you when he knew it was the wrong thing to do, and then dumping you after the wedding and putting you through the trauma of divorce. It is devastating, and my heart goes out to you, but honestly it gives you a chance to start again with someone that really does want the same as you. Give yourself time, you will soon heal and be stronger for the experience.
2006-12-18 05:51:22 · answer #2 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry this man waisted three years of your life. He strung you along and just like that cut the string! It hurts now but just think how easy it will be to end the relationship. With his immature mentality, just think how difficult it would have been if he abruptly ended your marriage and you both had children together. What happened to you is a blessing in disguise. He lost the best thing he ever had and what comes around goes around. Take care of yourself, and we are all here to talk if needed. : )
2006-12-18 00:35:13 · answer #3 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well just think of it as his loss. It may be difficult for the moment but it'll get better. Move on with your life and just see what happens. A lot of guys get cold feet and get over it. However that's about the only resonable excuse for taking him back, anything else and you don't need him. Besides it might not seem like it at the moment but there always someone better out there.
2006-12-18 01:36:05 · answer #4 · answered by cihccihtog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see a counselor/psychologist, talking to someone other than family and friends can really help sometimes. Just as your ex fiance has moved on, you need to as well. I know that may sound harsh, but there is no point dwelling on the past and what could have been. Get a grip of your life, be strong and move on, that is the best revenge. Cheer up, things will get better, but remember, you have to make it happen. Good luck.
2006-12-18 00:34:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay, take this experience as a new opportunity in life. There is a reason behind everything that happens in our lives so dont feel bad in the future something better will be part of you.
2006-12-18 00:53:43 · answer #6 · answered by joseph t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry about your plans, but it's his loss. you will find someone that wants you for the person you are. that person will include you in the plans and everything else as well as accept your input on any situation that may arise. keep you head up and it will all works out for the best...just be thankful he ended it before the wedding and not after the wedding. good luck
2006-12-18 08:35:58 · answer #7 · answered by anna j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on and drop the loser. You are wasting valuable precious time.
You need to make an effort to change the marriage/divorce laws in the U.S. as well. That is what is keeping men from making the final committment, or the final exit, as I call it.
Anyways, you and your ex-fiance, (not fiance anymore, get that through your head; stop calling him your fiance) will never recover from this, so it's pointless to stay with hiim.
2006-12-18 00:40:36 · answer #8 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
What was the reason the wedding was called off? He might have a good one and unfortunately you might not be able to change his mind.
2006-12-18 08:43:35 · answer #9 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, you poor girl. The only thing that will console you is to know the real reason why he did it, not just an excuse. You can always have your mom call his mom.
2006-12-18 12:35:00 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋