I broke up with the love of my life six months ago...I keep thinking about him, but I know in my heart that we're not meant to be. The thing is that I told him not to ever try to talk to me again, but recently he sent me a couple of text messages, asking about how Ive been...What should I do? How can I get over him...if he keeps trying to contact me?
2006-12-17 16:27:52 · 18 answers · asked by hottone 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he is the love of your life then how does your heart speak to you?
Does it speak with logic or reason?
Does it speak out of passion or humility?
How can the love of your life not be "meant to be."
I don't think we ever forget, they will always be in our hearts whether they contact us or not.
2006-12-17 16:34:25 · answer #1 · answered by Spandito 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time fixes everything.
After six months, it's probably not him you're fixated about, but the habit of having somebody to call your own. You're probably just lonely. It's probably best to start going out more, meet other people.
As for letters and e-mails: It's all up to you - do you want to see him? If so, why shouldn't you? I would advise against getting back together schemes though - people usually break up for a reason.
2006-12-17 16:31:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You stated to him to not contact you. Do you still feel the same way? Do you feel that you can begin talking and not be hurt or regretful about the course of direction of your relationship? Do you feel a friendship can blossom from this now or do you feel that things can spin out of control?I think you can find the answer you're looking for in your heart if you are honest with yourself about him.
2006-12-17 16:32:43 · answer #3 · answered by vince 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to break all ties with him. Tell him to stop attempting contact with you, it is over! The only way to get over him is to not be reminded of your relationship day after day with him texting you. Once communication is cut off, time will heal your wounds. You will eventually get into a new routine without him and find someone new!
Take care of yourself.
2006-12-17 16:31:26 · answer #4 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant always completely get over someone. You should talk to him & just be friends & it may be ackward at first but it'll get better. Im friends with all my ex's so I know its better this way. You'll find someone new sooner or later & I'm sure he will be jealous,but if hes a good guy he'll be happy & jealous & wont say anything about it.
2006-12-17 16:41:49 · answer #5 · answered by PinkLove6 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really serious about wanting to move on with your life you don't answer the text messages or any other communication.
If you do you'll be back in the situation before you know it.
2006-12-17 16:31:05 · answer #6 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any reason why you can't treat him like a human being? Just because you are done with him relationship wise, doesn't mean you can't be civil!
He's asked you how you are doing, so TELL HIM!!
Maybe you can find it easier to get over him if you discover that you can communicate with him without attaching deep emotions to it.
Give it a try!
2006-12-17 16:32:35 · answer #7 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously wants you to forgive him. And you still think about him. Try and give it one more chance, if it still doesn't work out you have to make sure you can move on. If you have to break up with him you should have had a fight in order to make it stop. Then, if you're P.O.ed enough you wont care if he's the last guy on earth!
2006-12-17 16:34:19 · answer #8 · answered by Spikey Paws 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once you find someone else you'll get over him in no time.. besides.. maybe this will do you some good.. i mean talking to him.. you can either... work things out and start over.. or.. learn from your mistakes and become good friends.. or.. realize that a friendship is a mistake and move on... one way or another you don't necessarily lose anything
2006-12-17 16:31:14 · answer #9 · answered by blahh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just dont respond to him,,,, erase the messages,,, you can get over it, because you simply have to,,,,,,, he was the love of your life, so far, but you have alot of love left to give, so a future love will most likely come along,,,,,,, its not so much about what he does, but about what you want to do, feel is best to do, and follow threw and do,,,,, remind yourself of why you broke up,,,,,,and of what your heart says,,,,,
2006-12-17 16:30:58 · answer #10 · answered by dlin333 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋