Because of work, I have to be away with her. I'm in a lot of stress lately and I feel like I'm losing it. I'm with my wife abroad, and my daughter's left in my home country with my mother-in-law.
My wife wants me to get them asap. But I keep telling her that we need to be stable first and money is a bit of problem too.
I need to clear my head and think straight, but I'm really really consfused.
Your comments is highly appreciated.
2006-12-17 16:24:28 · 11 answers · asked by markbriones 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You should not worry about not being with your daughter at Christmas. You can celebrate Christmas any time, whenever you see her. But it sounds as though you and your wife have been separated from your daughter for a long time. That must be very hard for all of you. I can understand your wanting to get stable first and save some money before sending for your daughter and mother-in-law, but it is not good for your family to be apart for too long. Until you can send for them, you should keep in touch by phone and e-mail and letters so that your daughter doesn't forget you. And you might want to send for them sooner than you had planned. I think you will feel better when you are all together again.
2006-12-17 16:33:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anniesgran 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my first suggestion would be find a good job thatr is better and you dont have to work on christmas. So then you can see your daughter or you can confront you boss about the problem and see if she can do something about it. Money may be a problem but what about family i know your going through stress, but it may not happen this christmas so plan for nextchristmas so you can see your daughter or have your own littlechristmas with yourdaughter and spend alot of time with her when you do get to seeher!!! Good luck and best of hope!!!!!
2006-12-18 00:58:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was growing up my dad was in the military. After he retired, he became a police officer. Both professions don't care whether it is Christmas, life goes on. I would have given anything to have my dad on Christmas, even if it was Christmas eve of the day after Christmas. I can remember one Christmas in which we even had pizza for dinner because he wasn't there and we did not live near relatives.
Your daughter needs you when she is young. One day you will awaken, ready to be a dad and she will be grown. If you wait until you are financially able to take care of her, you will never have her. Since I have divorced, it has been extremely tough financially, but somehow, I have always been able to provide a warm bed in a seperate rooms for each of my children, good food and shelter and the much needed love.
Take care and good luck!
2006-12-18 01:10:13 · answer #3 · answered by Shoe Lover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is sad to know that you are chosing money over being with your child! It is not about how many items you can buy for your child at Christmas--but the love you can bring to her on this day!
If you are hurting and stressed over not being with your child--imagine how your wife feels--she gave birth to this child and I now she is acheing to see her baby!
Thee is nothing in this world that can keep me separated from my child for three years. This child is only going to be a child once--and if you miss watching her grow up because of money---you are a silly man!
I am quite sure your child would rather sleep in a box on the street with you than sleep in a mansion without you!
2006-12-18 03:17:50 · answer #4 · answered by destine4_69 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought you were going to talk about a sad RIP story.
You need good financial support before you bring your kids into the matter. or else you could end up broke with no money
let your daughter stay there until you're stable!
2006-12-18 00:42:54 · answer #5 · answered by Ashley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly think that family is more important than financial status/work. Your daughter will only be with you for a couple of years. You want her to remember her daddy and make a lasting impression on her while you can.
2006-12-18 00:29:33 · answer #6 · answered by Cho_Chang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't know what to tell you , but obviously financial stability is more important than being with your daughter at christmas. Remember, you are the one who decided on that profession or job, and if it's the 3rd time, not seeing your daughter, then you have no one to blame but yourself. if you don't like it, find another with more flexibility
2006-12-18 00:27:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain brother. THis is the second Christmas that my Ex-wife took the children away from me. Keep your chin up. Time will change things for you . Talk to your God. Tell him what you want.
2006-12-18 00:32:30 · answer #8 · answered by Mr Brightsides 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm, Be with your daughter.
At least one of you should be.
Kids don't care how much or how little money you have.
What point is money if you don't have your child with you!
The saying goes...
Money is the root of all evil...
I think money is the root of your confusion.
A lot of people raise kids with very little, scale back, get another job. Do what it takes, but be with your baby!
2006-12-18 00:30:01 · answer #9 · answered by my-kids-mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its wonderful that you want to set up a good life for your daughter family and everyone involved tho it may be hard now i think maybe you shouldnt wait somone told me " as long as you have family you will be the richest eprson in the world" sometimes its hard to see but i keep wanting to believe with my heart that its true its just hard sometimes really hard but she is lucky you love her and want to show it to her to the best of your ability i hope it works welll for you. be safe. and in good health you and your family.
2006-12-18 02:17:39 · answer #10 · answered by zumy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋