I offered to pay a guy on my ballroom team to give me lessons once a week. He said he would love to but he didn't want any money for it. He gave me two lessons. Then on the third week he said that he didn't know when he was going to have time because he was so busy. He told me to call him everyday to check. We never had a lesson that week or the next week for the same reason. I asked him if he still wanted to give me lessons and he said yes he did but I would have to work with him and his schedule to work it out. Now we are on the third week of him saying he is too busy and having me call him to check his schedule everyday. I have given him the option of saying that he can't do it anymore but he keeps saying that he does. Should I believe him and keep checking with him every week? Or would you say that his actions speak louder than his words and I should just tell him to forget it? Why would he keep telling me that he wants to do it if he doesn't?
2006-12-17 16:23:37 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Forget him. You can always find qualified ballroom dancing teachers anywhere. Why do you have to stick with him?
2006-12-17 16:25:34 · answer #1 · answered by Sax M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is just a little busy. I have a 3 month old daughter and I know for a fact that sometimes you can forget about things that you honestly do intend on doing but just simply forget or other things come up that you have to do at that very moment come up and you don't get around to your origional plans. If I were you I would try for one more week and if that doesn't work out then you can pretty much assume he doesn't have the heart to tell you he is not really that abosorbed in giving you lessons.
2006-12-17 16:39:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, one thing i'll say is that he ain't a gentleman..im sorry that one of us has done that to u.. there might be a few reasons i can think of:
1. He's tryin to be nice.. (but i don't think that keeping a girl waiting is a nice thing to do..)
2. He likes you a little and wants to 'fetch' you n see how far u'd go to contact him.. maybe he wants to be 'wanted' or 'needed' by u..
3. He sincerely wants to teach u, but he's a really busy guy..(but if he acts likes this, it looks like he doesn't seem to know his own limits...)
if u ask me, i'll suggest a few possible ways:
1. You tell him nicely to do u a favor..since he's very busy, ask HIM to LET YOU KNOW when he's free..
2. You just stop calling him.. if he doesn't ask, then it means he doesn't care.. if he asks, then you say that you're looking for other activities..trying out other stuff.. if he then insists on teaching you, then u must do No. 1. make sure HE's the one tryin to find u..(since he's the one who insists..)
If u really still wanna learn ballroom dancin, u can find someone else right?..well, i hope..
or maybe u can try somethin different altogether, like cycling or handicrafts..keep ur mind of ballroom dancin for a while..
anyway, everythin's jus a suggestion.. decision's all yours..
(wish i could ballroom dance...or hiphop..)
2006-12-17 16:42:14 · answer #3 · answered by deathbyte 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just might be that he wants to give you lessons but he is too busy. Find someone else to give you lessons and leave the ball in his court. If he asks why you hadn't called him to see about lessons tell him that you felt like you were being a burden.
2006-12-17 16:27:07 · answer #4 · answered by reowrrrr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, maybe he really is very busy. However, I would suggest that you give him YOUR number and ask him to PLEASE give you a call when is free to give you lessons. You can then call him at the end of each week to remind him that you still want lessons. That calling EVERYDAY sounds a bit much.
2006-12-17 16:28:28 · answer #5 · answered by msvietpig 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like you said and the old saying says, that actions speak much more powerfully than mere words do.
2006-12-17 16:26:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he's the type a person that says yes to everything and not thinking about what he is saying yes to. sounds like a very selfish man. i say you get what you pay for. go elsewhere for lessons.
2006-12-17 16:28:10 · answer #7 · answered by dasani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actions ALWAYS speak louder than words.
2006-12-17 16:34:40 · answer #8 · answered by Janet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he used to be interested in you but now he's not so sure. he's probably stringing you along until he decides if he's interested in another girl or not. any one who does this sort of thing is iresponsible and doesn't realy care about anyone but themself.
2006-12-17 16:31:31 · answer #9 · answered by ---- 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him some slack. he probably is busy and wants to get to you, but he cant. as time progresses it will get better. i promise.
2006-12-17 16:27:00 · answer #10 · answered by alien 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋