I've been engaged sense July and we have a tentative date for May or June 07. We are going to have the wedding at my church and a casual reception of bbq and booze in his parents' back yard. His whole family live locally but only my Father's side of my family does. My mother is from a city half way across the country with a huge extended family (my living great-grandmother had 10 children). I also have a third branch to my family tree, my biological father's. He died before I was born so I'm really important to his family. He's from another city where I have another living great-grandmother.
So I was thinking that having so many people travel, especially two 90-something-year-old women half way across the country would be impractical. And there's no way that I could pay for that. Then I thought why not just go to them. I could have my wedding in my home town, have a reception, then take a trip out to city #2 and having a second reception with that family and show the video from the
2006-12-17 16:19:55 · 8 answers · asked by kadan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
ceremony. Then take a drive to city #3 and have another reception.
That way everybody could meet my Fiance and get together with us without a lot of travel. It's easier to move us than all the guests, lol. I think it would be a lot of fun and low cost if we drive and have the parties in back yards. What do you think, has anybody done anything like this?
2006-12-17 16:20:38 · update #1
I've seen lots of people do this, because while they want to share their wedding with as many friends and family as they can, practicality rears its ugly head, and you soon realize that all these people just can't come to you. Since there's just you and your hubby, it's much easier for Mohammed to come to the mountain, instead of the mountain going to Mohammed, so to speak. My sister and her hubby even did this, our family lived in KS, our extended family was in GA, and her hubby's family was in CT when they got married. They just did a driving honeymoon, and had open houses in the cities where they had family who couldn't make the trip to the actual wedding. So I think it's great! Good luck and congratulations!
2006-12-17 16:46:29 · answer #1 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is anything wrong with it, as long as it's not 3 huge productions. If it's 3 backyard type weddings, that's fine. You should only wear your actual "gown" to the first church wedding. The other two, you can definitly wear white, but something more low-key (a white suit, or a white sun dress). I'm only saying that b/c it might look a little odd for you to be in someones backyard in a cathedral length gown. It's nice of you to consider your elderly relatives. If the two other citites are within driving distance (under 3 hours) I would consider trying to combine the two into one party. You'll probably have a few nasty old biddies talking about you anyway though, thinking you just want more gifts. Ignore them and be a gracious bride at all your celebrations!
2006-12-17 17:04:48 · answer #2 · answered by MelB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no law in any country that I know about that stops you marrying the same person twice. Priests and marriage celebrants will certainly be happy to help you do this. So you can do the ceremony in each place. The Japanese consider this to be good luck and often on their honeymoon get married a second or third time in the country they go to.
I would suggest a highly edited set of photos or video to show to the people at the other location.
2006-12-17 16:34:56 · answer #3 · answered by flingebunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be great, and showing consideration for everyone. Make the video, and then have low-key receptions in the other two cities. Just don't do three weddings as someone suggested!
Good luck to both of you!
2006-12-18 01:34:35 · answer #4 · answered by Cat Lover 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds cool to me, I had a friend who had a reception in a hotel and then the next day continued it in his backyard. It was a lot of fun.
2006-12-17 16:29:40 · answer #5 · answered by niller_jean 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Great idea. You may get some voluntory help in the process. Good thinking!
2006-12-17 17:37:38 · answer #6 · answered by ab3c2t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be sure you don't over-extend your finances setting this up. You don't want to start with a debt the size of a mortgage at the start of your marriage.
2006-12-17 16:31:03 · answer #7 · answered by Sax M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good Idea...
go for it.
Wedding & Honey moon at the same time
good luck
2006-12-17 19:07:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋