After telling this guy, who said a few weeks ago he likes me, I don't know what I want and I don't know if I am ready for a relationship, he has changed. He doesn't call or text me everyday like he usually did.
So last night I aske him what's up. He said that he went out with a girl last week. So I told him that if he has a GF now, I will not want to continue this flirting spree anymore. He looked at me and said just because he went out with someone, doesn't mean that person is his girlfriend. What is that supposed to mean?
2006-12-17 16:19:39 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He probably really likes you and realized the only way he would have a chance with you is to try and make you jealous and have you miss him.... it seems like it worked because you noticed the change. Think about this rationally. If he didn't go out with the other girl would you still want to go out with him? if the answer is no, don't go out with him and let him move on. This is just a precautionary measure because I really think he has feelings for you. There is a Big difference between lust and like/love. I wish you the Best of Luck!
2006-12-17 16:26:24 · answer #1 · answered by coolchick 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i know this is strange for u, but i kinda experienced this myself.. (more on the guy side, actually..)
i once had a crush which lasted years..the girl also had a crush on me..but we kept playin it around without tellin each other how we felt.. then one day i decided to tell her..but i said i didnt wanna be attached.. the funny thing is, on the night, i kinda lost all my crush to her..as if, 'it's done.mission accomplished.'.. its kinda weird.. so this MIGHT be a possibility in ur case..
and one more thing..maybe it depends on different cultures, but when i ask a girl out for a date, - altho i sometimes wish that we might become attached - we both know that it is only a date and not anything else unless we BOTH SAY that WE AGREE to be attached as boyfriend/girlfriend.. (well, maybe thats why i never had a girlfriend ...)
anyway, the point is..dates are supposed to be activities where we get to know the other person more.. so i might agree on his answer that going out with u doesn't mean you're his girlfriend..i've been on memorable dates with two girls..none became my girlfriend..
so before u BOTH make any agreement, please do not assume anything k.. it might hurt YOU..and that matters right?..
2006-12-17 17:00:47 · answer #2 · answered by deathbyte 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means what it means: going on a date is not the same as having a girlfriend.
He took what you said as a definitive "no."
That's what it sounds like to me.
A polite way of saying that you're not interested in him.
So, he basically gave up on you and now he's looking elsewhere, and he hasn't found anyone yet.
But now he also knows that he's made you jealous...
I think he's called your bluff, so you may as well lay down the rest of your cards now.
Do you want this guy for yourself or not? How much would it really bother you if he -did- find a girlfriend?
2006-12-17 16:33:41 · answer #3 · answered by randomstupidhandle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It means what it says.
One date doesn't mean he is committed to a girl.
He obviously still likes you, because he doesn't want you to think that he is in a serious relationship. It's not wrong of him to go on a few dates if you guys aren't officially a thing though because you told him you didn't know if you wanted a relationship right now. Just give it some time for both of you to figure out what you want and if it's meant to be it will happen.
2006-12-17 16:24:50 · answer #4 · answered by xEasilyInfluenced 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It means he is going on dates. You can date people without having a girlfriend/boyfriend. People do it all the time. It's a good way to get a feel for what you want without getting tied down before you can figure it out.
2006-12-17 16:23:51 · answer #5 · answered by Jack S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exactly that! And he is absolutely correct. This is a time of exploring people and relationships, not a time of "roping someone in on a permanent basis".
He quit answering your texts because he bombed out, and went looking for someone who might be a bit more free with their goodies. Doesn't mean that he won't be back. he's just checkin em out.
2006-12-17 16:26:31 · answer #6 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's moving on. that's all. you told him you didn't want a relationship so hes looking for someone else now. and is giving on on even trying to date you.
to him. you saying that. even if you said "yet" is a never in a way.. hes probably a guy who doesn't want to wait for someone who he might not even get.
but if your jealous about him going out with this other girl. then you probably like him. tell him that and don't keep it a secret or you will miss something that could have been great for you.
2006-12-17 16:23:27 · answer #7 · answered by jasont_88 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it means that he asked you first, and gave you first chance, but you weren't ready for the kind of relationship he was. SO, he was checking out other people who may want the same thing he does....but evidently has made a definite decision to go for someone else yet.
2006-12-17 16:23:14 · answer #8 · answered by donnabellekc 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it means he thought you were being too deep and overanalyzing that one date means he all of the sudden has a girlfriend and never ever ask a guy "what's up?" you're the mystery girl, too busy to notice he hasn't contacted, if he says "i went on a date" you go "wow, that's great, hope it was fun" nothing deep. you made it sound like "not wanting to continue this flirting spree" like maybe he was being unfaithful...not a nice accusation. stay out of his love life, don't assume anything and don't be deep!
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2006-12-17 16:22:37 · answer #9 · answered by rulesgirl 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You told him that you weren't ready for the relationship and dont know what you wanted for your reasons and he moved away because of it. It kind of sounds like you didn't mean what you said. If you didn't want him to date around and you wanted to be exclusive, then you should of told him that. He was probably hurt by you telling him that you dont know what you want and tried to mask the pain by going out with someone else. Just be glad that he is being honest with you. If you want to be exclusive, then let him know. Try to figure out what you want before you loose him.
2006-12-17 16:24:58 · answer #10 · answered by jbvo 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋