so i hadnt dated for about a year do to my fears of being played by someone, so a year later meet this girl real sweet and all i really start to like her and we go out,,everything going real nice, im living the dream .. a week and a half later ,she calls me crying to confess that i needed someone else , that i desrvd better becuase she had cheated on me. she keeps crying say is sorry didnt wanna hurt me, that she was drinking and blah blah blah. the thing is that i really like her and wanna giver another chance becuase i had so much hope this would finally work, but im scared shell do it agian so i dont know if should giver another chance or not.
2006-12-17 16:10:43 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
when someone calls you up to tell you "you deserve better" you say "wow, so nice of you to look out for me thanks, guess i'll be moving on!" you can forgive her which is great, forgive her, that way you aren't angry and weird, but move on because you will never get over this if you stay and will only regret not leaving sooner. besides, she sounds nutty. being "scared" someone will repeat a behavior is something from which you should run very far. life is too short to be hurt by someone unappreciative. only love those who love you!
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2006-12-17 16:13:54 · answer #1 · answered by rulesgirl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that you have been hurt. Lousy time of year to have this happen. Not that anytime is a good time.
She will do it again if you forgive her. Maybe not next week but she will. Already she is not taking responsibility for it. She is blaming it on drinking.
You know, we attract certain kinds of people to us. Maybe you need to find out why this happens to you. Why is it that you pick girls that hurt you this way? We give people permission to treat us as they do.
You don't really want her. She is a cheat. You want a woman who will love you and not cheat on you. One that will respect the relationship you have with her. Not a tramp. Has she had an AIDS test lately? HCV test lately? How do you know how many men she has been with? You don't want her. Mistake. Chauk it up as a mistake. Get tested yourself for STD's and start over.
2006-12-17 17:07:52 · answer #2 · answered by skooter 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seriously. This relationship should end. Like the previous person said, I would have thanked her for her concern over my welfare and severed ties with her. Honestly, drinking isn't even an excuse - forget her lack of sobriety for a moment. Why would she put herself in a situation where someone could take advantage of her when she was inebriated?
Buena suerte.
2006-12-17 16:16:15 · answer #3 · answered by rayediance 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont know what YOU should do. I can only tell you what I would do....end that relationship. What was the point of cheating? Why did she feel she neede to? Once a cheater, always a cheater..the list goes on and on. You deserve better. Find you somone who wants to be with you.
2006-12-17 16:13:37 · answer #4 · answered by â¤??? ?å???? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In response to the comment "Once a cheater, always a cheater", I would like to say that NO one is perfect. We all have our shortfalls. You can find something to condemn with everybody.
She confessed. That's a sign of character. She didn't wait for you to find out. Please give her another chance. If she is really into you, she will commit. It doesn't matter who you date, you will always find something you have to forgive in the other person. It might be the way they wear their socks inside out. Just if it turns out that she hasn't really changed her heart, and continuously cheats, move on. However, to love is to take risk.
2006-12-17 16:20:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you really like her.. give her another chance, but if your having doubts. then leave her. i had giving someone a second chance and a thirst chance and she she told me the same thing. and now i hate her for it.
the good thing is she confessed and you never caught her. but she already did it one. if you give her a second chance be aware that you wont be able to trust her like you used to and then that could possibly cause some problems in the future.
2006-12-17 16:16:15 · answer #6 · answered by jasont_88 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, you know it's okay to trust her again. She is honest enough to confess. She really wants another chance, but if you catch her again then make sure that 1 you kick the guy's @$$ and 2 you break upn with her and don't take any more bull crud from her.
2006-12-17 16:30:12 · answer #7 · answered by Spikey Paws 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How much do you like her? I believe in a second chance for those I care--same goes to this.
But you have gotta realize, you relationship with her will never be the same due to trust issue.
2006-12-17 16:14:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is right, you dont deserve her. She did cheat because of something that you could not fufill for her as well. But im not saying its your fault. But if you give her a chance, she will lose respect for you. And you will be nothing to her.
2006-12-17 16:16:18 · answer #9 · answered by sk20007623 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U are not married and u dont own each other, its your call, give her another chance or the both of u move on but dont dwell in the negative...go for the positive
2006-12-17 16:14:42 · answer #10 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋