I worry. I worry he'll stop calling. Stop wanting to see. Realize he doesn't like me and doesn't want to be with me. Even though he is a great guy and has never said anything to suggest to me that he doesn't want to be with me. He has even told me he loves me. But still I worry. How can I stop doing that. Worrying wrecks my life. HELP Pls. :)
2006-12-17 16:10:01 · 6 answers · asked by Elle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Learn to love yourself first.
Stop tearing yourself down with self doubt and build your self up with confidence.
Have trust in yourself and then trust in him.
It's OK to have these kinds of negative emotions but they may lead to other kinds of negative emotions like jealousy or possessiveness, which can in turn push your partner away.
You just need to learn to respond to them appropriately when they pop in your mind.
Just remember that you always have a choice. You are not out of control because you always get to choose how you will respond.
It's not easy to change your worrying behaviour but it is possible. Being conscious of it with a desire to change is a good start.
Something you could do would be to write out a list of all of your positive qualities. Keep it close to you, so when you start to doubt yourself pull it out and read something off of that list.
Counter the negative thought with a positive one.
All the best!
2006-12-17 16:27:57 · answer #1 · answered by Spandito 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just have to stop worrying and realize that he is with you because you are worthy of his love. You might want to ask yourself when it was that you were told or decided otherwise, because this kind of thinking could actually cause you to do things that might sabotage the relationship you have now. The only fear you have to worry about is fear itself, and it comes from within, so stop now, and change your internal voice to start saying...."I'm good enough, I'm smart enough, and doggone it, people like me!!!"
(Thank you Stewart Smalley for your daily affirmations). Good luck Sis, and be well OK.
2006-12-17 16:42:31 · answer #2 · answered by Crowfeather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds very self-centered. It's all about you, isn't it? Your fears, your problems, what you want, if he wants you, your comfort level, your worries. I think you should get some counseling to build your self-esteem and sense of self-worth. At the very least, read some books on self-esteem.
2006-12-17 16:14:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop being paranoid... It sound like you have issues of yourself because you are not confident of who you are ... To me you first have to get over your fear and see you are a intelligent good woman..
2006-12-17 16:23:04 · answer #4 · answered by funkysha916 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU ARE WORRY ABOUT HOW HE FEEL THEN STOP
WORRY AND ASK HIM WHAT GOING ON.
2006-12-17 16:15:13 · answer #5 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is wrong with u? enjoy the moment please
2006-12-17 16:20:15 · answer #6 · answered by Haifa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋