Christmas thank-you notes for family?

Question

I was taught to write thank you notes everytime I got a present. I continued doing so, but in the last few years noticed I was the only one in my family (mine and my in-laws) sending them. I've never got a thank-you note for Christmas gifts from either side of the family. Last year I didn't get around to it (for family--co-workers, clients, etc. got notes) and no one complained. No one ever said they liked the notes, either. I know I should start sending them again, but I'm really lacking motivation. Is it rude to ask my family if they mind me not sending thank-yous?

Answer 1

Don't listen to Jinny. The ritual things in life really matter.

Even if they don't mind not getting the notes you should still write them. The writing of thank you notes is not just for the people who gave you gifts. It is a ritual that proves that you are truly thankful. Write the notes.

Answer 2

I personally never send thank you notes to anyone, unless it's someone that doesn't HAVE to give me a gift. Family doesn't really have a choice in the matter (of gift giving), it's sort of a priority for them to give you gifts. If you know what I mean...
Instead what I do for my family, is make them all homemade christmas cards. They like those a lot. It means more than a store bought one (to them anyway). So, if you still want to do something nice for your family / friends, making home - made christmas cards works great! Thank you cards are for people that you don't know too well, and they gave you a gift. This is all in my opinion anyway.
Hope this helps! :)

Answer 3

Yes it is.There aren't very many people who take the time to get personal and take the time to actually send a thank you card.I was raised back when people had common courtesy and respect for one another--sounds like you were taught that way too.Others may not say anything directly to you about receiving your card , but believe me it means something to them.If you know you should start sending them again then obviously it's the right thing to do , and you'll feel better about yourself later.

Answer 4

I was taught to send out thank you notes or cards to everyone that gave me a gift. I have now passed this on to my children. It is the right thing to do. I read somewhere that this grandmother is now longer going to give gifts to her grandchildren because of the fact that they never send a thank you note.
My mother just sent her oldest grandson a gift for his baby girl, a first birthday present, and she has yet to hear from him or his wife, and this was sent out the last part of September. She gave my children money for their birthdays and they sent her a card right away. It made her feel appreciated for what they were given.

Answer 5

Isn't saying thank you on the spot upon receiving the gift good enough? Limit thank you notes to dinners, and wedding gifts I say.

Answer 6

I don't know your family, but I'm guessing that nobody wanted to make it seem like you HAD to make them. They might wish they were as organised as you! I don't think that it hurts, and sometimes people are too embarassed to admit that they really appreciated something as small as a thank you note. Maybe they're going through a rough time, and you seemed to be the only one who cared... who knows? I think it's very sweet of you!

Answer 7

I would say that if you receive a gift from your immediate family, parents, sibling, grand parents. It is not neccessary. Everyone else, yes. Just make up generic thank you for the gift cards, no one reads them anyway.

Answer 8

Be grateful and continue what you were taught, it is a good gesture to reply your feelings that way. Please get up and make the best of it, even if you feel down or unmotivated. Merry Christmas.

Answer 9

No not at all after all they have all stop sending them May God bless you and Merry Christmas