I was raped in a cab (Mexico City) four years ago... and I thought I was fine. But yesterday I had a tremendous nervous breakdown and I suddenly find myself feeling the same fear and anger and hatred I felt that very day... I may have made a mistake not ever telling anyone, out of both shame and the desire not to generate any sympathy of conflict within my family unit, and also because I thought I was fine and I had overcome it. Turns out I was wrong... What should I do? I feel a mess....
2006-12-17 16:00:23 · 3 answers · asked by veevintage 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Talking with others who have had similar experiences would certainly be helpful - many cities have support groups for rape victims.
Maybe it would be helpful to you to express your anger and fear by writing down your feelings as if you were writing a letter to the person who did this to you. Tell the bastard exactly what you think of him and how it feels. You could even send to a newspaper in Mexico City if you want.
2006-12-18 05:15:28 · answer #1 · answered by formerly_bob 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been through the same thing 7 years ago and i was only 11 but consequently i also got pregnant and miscarried. I didn't tell anyone because i was told by him that no one would believe me. I had the same mental breakdown you explained when one of my high school teachers noticed the marks of self harm. I ended up talking to her and she put me in touch with a councilor which didn't help me but maybe will help you. All i can say is time will heal and wounds will slowly close and i will not say it will all go away because it is something that has happened and you can not change it. But remember you are letting him win by not coping and not seeking help. Only you can seek help when you are ready. All i can say is maybe go to the doctors and explain your situation and ask his/her advise. I got put on anti depressants for depression and anxiety which i think helped me. You will never forget but you can slowly learn to accept. Good Luck with it but most importantly don't let him win.
2006-12-18 18:28:40 · answer #2 · answered by passport_to_heaven1210 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, the way that everyone reacts to rape is different.
I was raped before, and i know what it feels like to keep it to yourself. I know what it feels like to feel shame, and to not want everyone to find out and treat you differently. But i also know that when you finally tell someone and get help for it, its like a total weight off your shoulders!!!
I can't make your decisions for you, and i can't promise that it will be an easy road! Because it's hard! But its worth it to speak to people, its worth it to say that this happened to me and to say that you can come out a stronger person because of it!!!
Take care of yourself!!! Stay strong! And speak out against abuse! You speaking up can inspire hundreds of other people to do the same!!!
2006-12-18 06:44:45 · answer #3 · answered by LCAJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋