Ok, so this may sound slutty/stupid or something of the sort, but how would I go about getting a man to sleep with me?
I'm 17, a virgin, and quite frankly, I just want to have sex. Doesn't anyone understand that?
I wanna do it with someone that's hot and experienced.
I used to wanna wait until I was in a relationship, but, I'm emotionally mature enough to handle a "hook-up" now, and at the rate I'm going, it'll be a long time before I'm in a serious relationship.
I have my eyes set on a guy that's over 20 years older than me (I'm 17), how would I make this happen?
I don't even know if he likes me in a sexual way... I mean, he seems to flirt with me a lot, but for all I know, he could just be treating me like a child...
How do I send him the message that I'm interested? I feel so stupid, because part of me thinks that he would be freaked out beyond belief, if he knew any of this.
How do I go about this? He thinks I'm just a sweet, innocent girl...
2006-12-17 15:56:26 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't get me wrong, I'd love a relationship with the guy, but I don't think he'd want that from me...
I'm not stupid, and I know that I don't have a chance with him. I've been down this road before...
2006-12-17 15:58:09 · update #1
Be careful, once you take that step you can never go back.
All you can do after is learn to accept the consequences.
You may think you will be able to handle it emotionally but you will never know what kind of impact it will have on you until after it happens.
I lost my virginity at 17 and to be honest, in hindsight would have rather waited.
I would say, if you want to, just ask him.
If he says no, then no big deal, you've got time so you don't need to feel pressured to rush into anything.
2006-12-17 16:06:58 · answer #1 · answered by Spandito 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously aren't mature enough to handle a "hook-up" if you think that having sex with some random dude ASAP is a responsible thing to do. Please think about your heart and emotions before jumping at the first sex offer you get, especially with a guy twice your age. And by the way, is he married or does he have any children? Take that into account and remember sex is more than just a physical act, it is also an emotional act. And also make sure you are careful and reduce the possibility of transmitting any STD's by using protection. Be smart and be safe. God bless you and make sure you only do what YOU want to do, not something because you feel forced or pressured.
2006-12-17 16:10:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the only thing i can think of is to just flirt with him a whole lot and make it really obvious that you are into him...he is a guy trust me he will get the hint! and as for the "he is 20 years older than you and probably doesnt want a realtionship" that isnt nessaceraly true....i had a huge crush on a family friend ever since i was about 17 and he is 30 years older than me.....i am 24 now and we have been dating for almost a year and a half....so you never know he might be more into you than yu think!
2006-12-17 16:03:56 · answer #3 · answered by Amy N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you want him to KEEP thinking that way, then you might not bother say anything to him. But if you don't care what he thinks and just want a "HOOK UP" , just tell him. Just make sure that you EXPLICITLY tell him there are NO strings attached, ANY. Although I'm not sure that a man of his age would feel comfortable having sex with a woman who is so much younger then himself. (I myself would not) But I hope you are sure you can handle this and not fall for the guy. Sex can be VERY powerful you know!
2006-12-17 16:05:38 · answer #4 · answered by gord's360 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is rough topic. Most females I know dress to show what they have available such *** tight shirts, skirts, anything showing some cleavage. If you can dress sort of slutty and get a man to see you sexually or get someone to comment on how they want you, than your opportunity is there and you need to commence in flirting which will then lead to sex.
If you are really wanting this, make sure you protect yourself.
2006-12-17 16:01:39 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should wait and lose your virginity to someone you really love and care about.
Do you really want your first time to be completely random and meaningless?
If word gets out that you are looking for random hook ups, it really will be a long time before you are in a serious relationship because no decent guy wants to be with a girl who has a reputation for sleeping around.
2006-12-17 16:04:31 · answer #6 · answered by Desiree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure if you went out along skid road you could find some diseased decrepit old man to do you.
We'll be waiting for your next question in a few months about why did he leave you and how did you get HIV.
2006-12-17 15:59:51 · answer #7 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok the easiest way is to go into the city late at night find some hobo or prostitute sitting on the street. Give him some money and you can have sex. See its that simple.
2006-12-17 16:40:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cutting the moral preachings apart this guy might or might not like to sleep with you but for sure he is not going to make a first move , so it will have to be you , try touching in suggestive way or talk about it with him but be careful he might die of excitement.
2006-12-17 16:01:17 · answer #9 · answered by shady_man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Young lady,
you very well know what his age & what he is thinking about you.So i feel better not to tell ur intrested .I think there is nothing wrong if your Virgin.Cool baby dont be in a hurry dear.
2006-12-17 16:05:13 · answer #10 · answered by s s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋