2006-12-17 15:50:59 · 9 answers · asked by Megan P 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Sometimes you have no choice but to go back to work. What made it easier for me was to make sure that my son wasn't at daycare from the minute it opened to the minute it closed - I went in to work as late as possible and left as early as possible every day. If I could, I would work it with my husband so that we only had the little guy at daycare for half-days. I also made sure that I NEVER brought work home with me so that I could give my son my undivided attention while I was with him.
If you think about it, they actually spend quite a bit of time sleeping at daycare, so it's not as bad as you might think.
Don't let other people make you feel more guilty than you probably already do - you can be a wonderful mother AND have a job!
2006-12-17 17:16:45 · answer #1 · answered by jar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hated doing this with my son, also but he is very well adjusted now.
I suggest taking him to the daycare he will be going to BEFORE you have to go back to work, for short periods of time, like while you grocery shop or something to get him used to it. Hope it all works out!
2006-12-17 23:54:03 · answer #2 · answered by jenhollywoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going back to work has to be hard for you. For our family, though we lost income, it made more sense for me to stay home. If I would of went back to work, I would have been working to keep my kids in daycare. I didn't want someone else raising my babies, for us, it took me too long to have them (infertility). But also, I didn't have anyone... family or friends I could have watch my little ones.
I told my employer I couldn't come back to work. Four months later, they called me and asked me if I would consider working from home and working only one day a week away from home. Of coarse, I grabbed it. I get to take care of my family and work in the evening from home. Its been 4 years now that I work from home. Sometimes its hard cause you can't leave work...literally! But the whole picture, I Love It! Working the one day a week lasted for a year, but when I did have to leave, I called home at least 3 times a day to check on my daughter. I would sing to her over the phone. That is what helped me.
I don't know what kind of a career you have, but if it is possible, ask them if they could work with you on allowing you to work from home a couple days a week. If that is not an option for you and you have to work maybe instead of your little one going to daycare, try a trustworthy family member or friend and offer to pay them what your paying for daycare or somewhat less. It's beneficial for all.
Leaving your baby behind for any reason is difficult. No one can take care of your baby like you. And spending time away is heartrenching for you. Your son has been with you continuously for a long time. But, adult time, which includes work is healthy for you. Your little one will adjust quickly if he feels safe and happy. It's good for him also. It's never to early to learn how to be social. My daughter is in preschool now only till noon, but I've called to check on her when she had a hard time with me leaving. I have a good relationship with her teacher and am getting to know the other parents. That may help you. Try to be as involved as you can and that should help you also know that he's in good hands.
I feel for you! I'm dreading the full day of school, the teenage years when they don't want to be with me as much and when they finally leave me for their lives. It's going to be hard to let them go then also.
Good Luck!
2006-12-18 01:06:14 · answer #3 · answered by Bug's Mom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If available, select a daycare that will let you log in and watch your child thru the Internet. It will relieve you of much of the stress.
2006-12-17 23:59:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I quit work. I stayed at home until "We" started Kindergarten. I volunteered everyday until the school gave me a job, because they saw I wasn't going anywhere. He is in high school now, and "We" are trying to decide where to go to college...
I know that would not work for everyone, but it has for me...
2006-12-18 00:02:12 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Parent magazine and Working Mother magazine both have good tips on this subject - - I would check out their websites to see if they have any articles online.
2006-12-17 23:59:37 · answer #6 · answered by Katie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THere is nothing really you can do. I cried the first day just try to keep busy. That is the only thing. It gets easier.
2006-12-17 23:54:04 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. Brown 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you could get a babysitter to stay with your child while you go to
work.
2006-12-17 23:54:11 · answer #8 · answered by Baby Gurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are pretty mean to start making your son go to daycarefor that age
2006-12-17 23:58:54 · answer #9 · answered by pinkpoodle 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋