2006-12-17 15:43:03 · 23 answers · asked by LIly 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am sorry for you and your family. The loss of a close loved one is always hard exspecially a parent. When my mother passed away and the funeral and over we had a rememberance (memorial) afterwards at my brothers house. I found it helpful to share a good memory about her and I and I also choose some of my favorite pictures to place in an album and as a family we talked about our memories and yes cried at times, laughed at time and came to realize she was still with us, in each of us.
I then took some time to take care of myself, in my case I went camping for a weekend and I communed with nature which is my link with what I call God. I was raised cathloic but I do not hold too close to any religion. But I do find my form of God to help me through tough times. Take time to grieve and to heal it will not be overnight or nessasarally easy. I believe that we pass on to a better plane of existance one that is free from physical pain and the stresses of daily life but one where we can still be part of watching our families grow and maybe even help them to choose the right path in life.
Remember your father, honor your father by living life as the best person that you can be. Allow yourself to make your father proud and carry him close to your heart always.
Peace and remember you are never alone if you keep him with you. He will be in you life forever when you make choices he will be guiding ou as he always did, but his voice is now in your head and always will be.
2006-12-17 16:00:12 · answer #1 · answered by Kdude 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh! I am sooooooo sorry for your loss. Yes, I did have my pap pass away exactly 1 wk b4 xmas yrs ago. then 1 wk later on xmas day my Aunt did also. w/in 1 wk of each other we had 2 deaths that were actually the 1st ones we had in our family and had to go through them both at once. There is really not anything any1 can say or do to help ease your pain. Just take comfort in the family ur close to and be there for each other. It's been a long time now and I still think about them almost everyday. I wondered if time would really help cuz it hurt so bad. It took a while but it did ease the pain. Did u ever hear of the song;"Go rest high on that mountain"? by; Vince Gill. It made me think of him everytime I heard it and still cry when I hear it. God luv ya honey! and we r thinking about u!
2006-12-17 15:54:26 · answer #2 · answered by same girl/new name :) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My condolence. Sorry to hear that your dad had passed away. The most difficult time is not during the funeral when friends and relatives are around to support you. It is when all have left and the emptiness in the days and weeks that follow. Be strong, knowing that Dad is in Heaven. The pain will slowly grow lesser but definitely never forgotten.
2006-12-17 15:53:35 · answer #3 · answered by Sooty 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
On January 13, 2007, it will be one year since my mom passed away. It still hurts and I'm not looking forward to xmas at all... the first one without her in over 40 years... I have a powerpoint presentation that I can email you if it'll help.... just send me your email.
My deepest sympathies for what you are going thru... I am truly sorry for your great loss.
2006-12-17 16:26:31 · answer #4 · answered by The ReDesign Diva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your loss. It is always so hard to have someone close to us die. It churns up so much emotion. It actually physically hurts sometimes. But like breathing, we carry on just one breath at a time and eventually the hurt goes away. I have found it easier to deal with dying by celebrating their life. I make photo albums based on themes in their lives...themes that mean something to me about them...they are my living memories of someone dear to me. That way i can smile when i look at their picture rather than cry. Death also makes us ask...what is after this life...so if you are a person of faith I suggest talking to God to tell Him to take care of your Dad, if not, then talk to a priest or minister about what might be after....this also gives meaning to your Dad`s life...and to yours too...good luck and my prayers are with you and your family.
2006-12-17 15:53:23 · answer #5 · answered by Therapist King 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sorry about your loss. In my life the person who I was closest with who passed away was my Grandma, she passed away 12 years ago, it was really hard for me, because I was very close to her, but I also knew that at the time she had been in alot of pain and I know she's in a better place.
What helped me at the time, my wife, (then my gf) was there for me and helped comfort me, also my family was very supportive and comforting also.
So I'd say look to family for comfort.
2006-12-17 15:49:16 · answer #6 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So sorry for your loss, I have lost several close family parents included. Time does heal the pain and makes it easier to remember the memories. This time of the year makes the loss even harder I think Again I am very sorry for your loss
2006-12-17 16:53:56 · answer #7 · answered by sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no time limit for grieving. I know a little about the pain you experience. I think that anyone who has ever lost a loved one knows. I am sorry for your loss. The bad times will get better. It's okay to cry. Remember him with a smile.
2006-12-17 16:48:44 · answer #8 · answered by The Pope 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is the greatest healer of all. But even with the empty feeling inside, just remember that a love for a daughter and the love for a dad is eternal! Love goes beyond the grave and I know he looks at you and smiles knowing your safe. Cry a lot, morn your loss and love him always. :)
2006-12-17 15:48:02 · answer #9 · answered by lifeis2short30 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry for your loss it takes time after the loss of each of my parents you must fin clouser try rembering the good memories of you and your dad in time you will find peace talk to family members and friends who knew your dadsometimes other people stories of a passed loved one helps start the healing process
2006-12-17 15:56:48 · answer #10 · answered by CHRIS H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋