my mom just left us. she was the only person who i knew actually cared about anything.and made it her goal to look after ontario farmers.she lived in a city.my loss is unimportant to her legacy.
i just feel so bad about everyones loss.and today is not doin' me well.
insight
2006-12-17 15:39:20 · 17 answers · asked by lost 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
i'm so sorry to hear about your loss,i think your mom would be proud of you if you tried to keep her legacy going in her memory,sounds like she was a wonderful caring person with a big heart who looked out for other.Always remember she is with you always in spirit only time will help heal your wounds but there will always be a part of her in your life,spirit and always remember life goes on for you and her as she is in a happy place and will always be with you.
2006-12-17 15:45:04 · answer #1 · answered by tesla 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is OK for you to grieve the loss of your Mother, and she sounds like she was a really cool person, who cared about the well being of others, and put their needs above hers. This is a rare person, no doubt, and you should count yourself as a very fortunate person to have had her for a Mom. She will be with you always you know, and you can find her in your memories, and cherish her for the rest of your life. You do need to put things in perspective, and realize that we all have to pass sometimes, and I hope that she didn't suffer if she was ill. Most important is to look forward, and the best way you can Honor her is to not feel sorry for yourself, and try to emulate her in her selflessness by being that way yourself, and that way you can carry on her legacy. Take care Brother, and grieve as you must, as it is appropriate.
2006-12-17 17:36:32 · answer #2 · answered by Crowfeather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its so sweet of you to be thinking about others in this time! That just shows how much strength you have in you. New years will be two years exactly that we lost my dad, and i remember feeling similar to you. We are sad because we didnt just lose a parent, the world lost a wonderful person. Im sure your mom is so happy you look at it that way! Maybe doing something for her in her memory would help you feel better. Maybe you could put together a fund raiser or something to support the things your mother was passionate about. Remembering the wonderful things about my dad and sharing them with others always makes me feel better. Try to remember something funny and laugh it out. Its helped me so much. Good luck!!
2006-12-17 15:55:14 · answer #3 · answered by Aubrey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for you loss. My Mom passed in 2000. Hurts like heck, right. The pain will always be there, but the sharp edges smooth out some. Just remember her smile and know she would not want you to be so unhappy.
2006-12-17 15:48:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
So sorry about your loss.From the brief description you gave about your mother ,she sounds like the type of person who gave you a good foundation on which to look at life.Every one goes through hard times and this will make you stronger. The hurt passes and I know there is someone you can turn to for a hug.Just don't be afraid to take it.
2006-12-18 02:01:16 · answer #5 · answered by Miz Val 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would dedicate a small place for her where you could put pictures and other memories of her there so that you would never forget about her. Also, try to think of all the good times that you had with her. Over time the pain will ease and you will move on.
2006-12-17 15:45:54 · answer #6 · answered by Alexis's Love Potion #9 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about your loss. Find comfort in taking over where she left off. You probably know the ropes by watching her. By doing this work you will feel a close bond with your mom, she will be with you always.
2006-12-17 15:45:03 · answer #7 · answered by jen19801976 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remembering them in a positive way. When my mom died in 2005, I just wanted to die with her. But if I think of her and all the great times we had, it makes it easier to deal with. I feel like she lives on as long as I remember her. It is the same with the person you lost. Just love them and remember them, and give it some time too.
2006-12-17 15:44:07 · answer #8 · answered by tatersma1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need closure.
Talk to people she knew, about her accomplishments. As soon as you realise that she fulfilled her 'purpose', that she did what she thought she had to do, the bad feelings will start to go away.
Always keep her memory alive, remember her for the good things, the happy moments that you shared.
2006-12-17 15:45:24 · answer #9 · answered by MoZ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When my father died I wrote a story about his life. While writing the book I remembered all of the good times we had had, and it made me feel a little better.
2006-12-17 15:42:49 · answer #10 · answered by Lachelle 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋