yea, okay....need serious advice here....?

Question

Alright. Me and this girl alex have been friends for FOREVER!! i love her so much and would do anything for her!! Well, she has been going out with the same guy for around 1 1/2 to 2 years and they finally broke up. his name is brian. I love Brian. he is super cute and sweet and hot and PERFECT!! im pretty sure they broke up because theyve been fightening lately and last night after formal, we were all at jessamyn's house and me and him were down stairs and he was telling he how pretty i was and all this stuff and so it was all good and we were fixing to start makeing out when alex came downstairs. they broke up this afternoon. if i start going out with brian...

What would you think of me?
Would you talk about me behind my back?
What would you say?

Any other advice appreciated.

Answer 1

+ I have a code of ethics that would not allow me to do that even if I wanted to. You may not have that so ask your girlfriend if she cares. I think that you will find you will lose her respect and friendship, but stranger things have happened in the world so use your heart as your guide.

Answer 2

Talk to your best friend about it. There's no sense taking stabs in the dark. You can't guess what she is thinking. Although it may be pretty obvious. But who knows? Maybe their rel was going downhill anyway. That being said...

What is more important to you, your friendship or this guy?
If you did decide to date Brian and it didn't work out could you stand losing him and her both?

These are the kinds of decisions that shape your life. And make you, you. So you decide, what kind of person do you want to be? How do you want to effect the world and those around you? How do you want to be remembered or thought of? Because girls like you people hear about and don't forget that stuff. Years later they will always think of you as that girl that did that thing. And to answer your questions.......

I would think you were an untrustworthy person. I could never leave you alone with my man because you are obviously capable of doing something so heartless. I think you are causing more damage and heartache than you know.

Yes I would talk about you behind your back, and I would never forget you for what you did.

I would say that you need to get your priorities straight and quit being a dumb *****. Be a good friend, that is a much better investment to make than this guy. But I know you won't because it already seems like you've fallen for him.

Answer 3

You are on thin ice here with a decision I don't think you really want to make ,,,,,, It might just come down to a question of your friendship with Alex or a relationship with her X ,,,, You said you've known here for ever ,,,, You also said you'd do anything for her ,,,, You are going to have to weight your affections for those two one against the other ,,,,, That's the dilemma ,,,, Brian broke up with her for what ever reason ,,,, Are you the next in line ,,,,, Brian is going to break up and make up many times during his school years and beyond ,,,, That is inevitable ,,,, Is your involvement with him going to end your friendship with Alex and if so is it going to be worth it ,,,, You'll never have Brian for a boyfriend for as long as you've had Alex as a friend ,,,, Think about it ,,,, The choice is yours ,,,, Just be prepared to live with the consequences or benefits of your decision ,,,,,,,,

Answer 4

I don't think you should go out with him because you would most likely lose a good friend. THis guys sounds like a jerk and would probably use you and you would be in the same boat as your friend Alex, but she wouldn't be there for you to cry to. Good friends are hard to come by. You will meet other guys later on. I say keep your friend and lose the guy.

Answer 5

If your a true friend you won't go out with her ex especially so soon. the dust hasn't even settled yet. She would be hurt im sure your suppose to be her friend. she will think you just layed low circling like a vulture till he was free. and as far as him telling you y our cute and hot and all that sweet stuff of course he's going to tell you that he want to get into your pants what you expect him to say your ugly as a goat .

Answer 6

Don't listen to Chickybabe. Anybody who gets 1500 points on Yahoo answers in one week can't have a social life. Look it up its true. I say go for it. Yeah people will talk about you for a while but what the h ell do you care. Sticks and stones baby. Show him how big girls play.

Answer 7

I don't think you should do that to your friend--dating a friend's ex, especially when he was hitting on you is a bad idea, and might even be the reason why they broke up. There are plenty of guys out there, it's not worth losing your friend for this one.

Answer 8

If you start dating him keep it on the DOWN LOW just see him a little talk on the phone but DO NOT TELL YOUR FRIEND. move slow with him, if you fall too quickly then you risk getting sereiously hurt if he goes back to her. not to mention how do you think she would feel if she saw her best friend out with her ex?? I would be pissed. approach this dude with caution, you can have a flingy thing but be careful dont fall too fast. ok?

Answer 9

I think ur kinda foxy.
I love how you sit rather unladylike in those hottpants. If I were to talk behind ur back it would be to ask if you like it like that.
I would finally say, come to me sweetheart cause I'm not ur friends recent ex and being w/ me won't pi$$ her off.

Answer 10

you answered your own question. You said you would do anything for her. If that's true, then you should keep your relationship with her the utmost priority. she is probably hurting from this breakup, and needs a friend to talk to. personally, I'd be crushed if you started dating him, and i think it would be really hard to get your trust back. it's really not worth it, trust me. keep her close to you, and let everything else fall into place.