Ok, so maybe you've heard this one before, but, I seriously am into this guy... but the problem is, he's, at least, 20 years older than me.
The age of consent where I live is 16, so that's not a problem (I'm 17), but would it be acceptable for someone my age to get with a man that was almost 40?
Would someone his age ever be interested in me, or does he just view me as a kid?
I don't know how I can pursue this, since I don't know his true feelings. I mean, he flirts with me a lot, but sometimes, I can't tell if he's just treating me like a kid.
I've had small crushes on older men before, and dreamed of pursuing them, but never did.
How can this time be different? Can anyone give me some tips on what to do here?
I don't want to be made a fool out of, but I'm sick of these adolescent "crushes." I'm 17, and I've never had a boyfriend, been kissed, or anything.
It's time for me to grow the hell up!
2006-12-17 15:30:28 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ohh, this might be the clincher... He has a kid of his own, that's my age... and one that's even younger... and he's a divorcee...
2006-12-17 15:32:26 · update #1
WOW! I am somewhat ashamed to tell you that i know where you are coming from. It really is kind of a sticky situation. If i were you, i would wait until you turn 18. If he is interested, things might happen then. But things might never happen and you need to realize this. The other thing you need to think about is that he is going to be ready to settle back down with somebody. If you and him were to ever work, you would kind of forefeit your 20's. The other thing that is so important is that right now, he is just a crush, perhaps a big one, but a crush none the less. Don't center your life around him. Go flirt with other guys and have fun. You are 17.
Go with your gut, but dont forget that you arent tied down yet, and the world is big and waiting for you to explore it.
2006-12-17 15:46:10 · answer #1 · answered by fired up 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. They guy is looking to get his wasted youth back by being with some one who is very young. This could be a good thing if he treated you like a goddess. But don't do it until you're 18. Personally, I think, you'd be better off with a guy just a few years older than you since guys mature emotionally at a slower rate maybe one who is only a little bit older than you won't have the same issues that the ones your age do, which is to sleep with anybody they can get away with. I know, been there done that, but age has made me wiser, I hope, cross my fingers.
2006-12-17 15:37:02 · answer #2 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When I was 18, I was dating a 24 year old. I know a girl that was 18 when she married a 29 yr old with 2 kids! Almost 40 may be pushing it. He wouldnt be looking for anything serious
2006-12-17 15:34:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find it hard to believe an older guy not be attracted to someone younger other than the fact the girl is younger. Since you have very little experience in the dating department you cannot understand how impressionable you are now. Five years you will. The girl is probable flirting with you because it's probably a huge turn-on him to be flirting with a 16 year old. Every one of his friends would praise him if he had sex with the 16 year old.
2006-12-17 15:36:07 · answer #4 · answered by Keith 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
apperently previous adult men like youthful females reason we are more beneficial fertile, it truly is of their genes, i study it on the internet it truly is wierd difficult because maximum in a position, smart older adult men don't like youthful females?? so i do not even imagine it is real. i imagine the guy is merely lonely.
2016-11-27 01:21:25 · answer #5 · answered by rocca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get involved with this one! Trust me, I have been there and done that, the heartache and trauma is NOT worth it. Run don't walk away right now. There will be other men who you will fall for but this one is not for you
2006-12-18 13:46:59 · answer #6 · answered by kat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT MAY BE TIME FOR YOU TO SEE WHAT THIS REALLY MEAN
HE IS TOO OLD FOR YOU. AND HE MAY LOOK AT YOU
IN A DIFFENT WAY, BUT I WOULD NOT GET INVOVLED WITH
THIS MAN, BECAUSE IN THE LONG RUN YOU WILL BE THE
ONE THAT GET HURT. WHAT EVERY HIS ATTENTION ARE
IT NOT GOOD. AND THE FACT THAT HE HAS CHILDREN
YOUR AGE. IS NOT GOOD AT ALL. HE NEED TO ACT
LIKE THE ADULT IN THIS. FOR YOU GROWN UP. YOU ARE
AT AGE THAT YOU SHOULD BE ENJOYING YOUR LIFE.
YOU JUST STARTING YOUR, HE ALREADY BEEN WHERE
YOU WANT TO GO.
2006-12-17 15:37:24 · answer #7 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no offense but EEOW
that like ur dad yo
2006-12-17 15:33:42 · answer #8 · answered by Make Love Not War! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋