i have no real family, no real friends, no true support... every one that does something for me lets me know they do me a favor, I have never had and true love without stipulations or them playing with me.
Now my male friend who is completely un-understanding, of the torture and abuse that i have endured while with him, from his family memebers he tells me to leave! hes making me work my way back into his heart becauae he says i have no common sense??? i was so depressed that i self mutilate, over take anti depressents and im afraid and feel i have to defend myself. but he still gets angry at me and says what i do adds up.
so now i have to earn his care and stuff because of these mistakes i have made, now he tells me everyday im fat, stupid, he dosent know what hes gonna do, hes gonna take out other women.. knowing i have no where to go
but im fed up and im going to try and find a safe way to kill myself because i am tired and dont want to fight anymore...
i want help!
2006-12-17 15:24:03 · 15 answers · asked by uabgurl22 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!! thank you very deeply for all of those who just wrote something encouraging, i really needed that you will all be very blessed... thank you and i can honeslty say that i love you all fro caring so much..
sincerely email me if you all need any type of advice one good turn deserves another
2006-12-17 15:45:17 · update #1
to hell w/ him!!!! I've been w/ assholes like that ,m and they love to keep you down!Call your local women's abuse shelter,ywca, human services.There are plenty of places you can go where people want to help abused and deppressed person.No one is worth killing yourself over --cause then he will win.Pray & I will pray for you too---also to Travis C who responded to this question---you've been reported--
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2006-12-17 15:29:34 · answer #1 · answered by andy 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Please don't do it!!! First you need to seek help. All the above advice (except the 1st one is great). Sweetie you need to get yourself together. You need to seperate yourself from ppl like that. You need to stop letting ppl validate you....validate yourself. If you are happy the way you are then great find some else....believe me there is someone for everyone. Someone will love you just the way you are. Don't be afraid to be alone...unitl you find that special someone, go to school, go work out, join a club and meet new ppl...ppl like you. I don't things may seem hard right now, but if you are not happy the way things are....you need to take the first step to make the changes happen. Noone can help you unless you start helping yourself sweetie. I know how u feel....I was abused in every wich way u can think of between 5 and 13 until I finally ran away and I did some very stupid things...but if I would have been successful at destroying myself I wouldn't have a 17 yr career in the military (I've travelled the world, married for 18 yrs and have three beautiful teenagers and a bunch of puppies running around...lol. I'm working on a college degree. Yes...there are still struggles in my life, I've had some medical issues, but everyone goes through rough times. Somethimes these are the times that help you appreciate and acknowledge when you are having something good happen. Sweetie just take one step at a time and it will be okay. Disassociated yourself with the trash, don't know anything about you but join a church, book club, fitness center for women, etc... and you will meet better ppl. Good Luck!
2006-12-17 15:43:05 · answer #2 · answered by latinajv 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's obvious you need to leave him. I think you know that too. It's just hard I suppose since you like him so much and have such a connection with you. But with every step in life it's never easy. Whatever anybody tells you, you need to make decisions for yourself. You have to depend on yourself and be strong. the only way you'd do that is from knowing you're an individual and not an extension of people. Family, friends...they help make your life happier, but they're not necessairly the ones that determine whether or not it is worth living. You are the one who decides to have a family, to have friends. the only situation that can't be helped is the familiy you were born in. Yet people everyday walk out on their family if they're abusive enough, so that happens too.
This is much harder than it sounds, but it all beings with a few big leaps and some small steps to follow.
Keep safe and strong.
2006-12-17 15:31:12 · answer #3 · answered by rashere 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I felt that way from age 11 on to adulthood. Like someone else said, it does not get better on your own. You get this black spiral of thinking where you start thinking "this thing sucks" and next, you are thinking "everything in my life sucks", and before you know it you are down to "I suck most of all." You need something to kickstart you back into liking life, seeing it differently. It is really awful, and I feel bad for you. You have to make a choice, I am afraid: what would be worse: feeling this horrific despair on and off for a lot of your days, or letting your family make a big deal about you seeing a doctor? You may feel both are lousy options, but if you are truly depressed, you will agree that almost anything else is better. But I do believe you can still see a doctor and not have your family know about it. Call a Crisis Line. It is anonymous and they will tell you how to get help to feel better. It is good that you are still thinking about how your family would feel if they lost you. That is one good thing in your life, right? They love you and would miss you! That means you are good for them - and voila, a reason to live! One other thing. This one thought helped me get through feeling suicidal in the past. Nothing stays the same. In the next 5 mins, or 5 hrs or next day, SOMETHING WILL CHANGE in your life. Guaranteed. It may not be a good change, but it just might be. You never know. Hold on to that hope. Wait and see. No matter how bad things are, something WILL be different, in some way, soon. Take care, TJ
2016-05-23 03:32:32 · answer #4 · answered by Marcia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, anyone who would put you down like that is not worth being around. You dont need anyone in your life like that. You are unique and wonderful in your own way and deserve to be happy. You do have support, all of the people online who have answered you care and I care. You can email me at
tatersma1@yahoo.com and I will be your friend
2006-12-17 15:51:58 · answer #5 · answered by tatersma1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE go to a hospital and turn yourself in there. If you want help, it takes a lot of courage to make the first move. OR call 911 and tell them you are thinking of doing something bad to yourself. You need help from a professional that can help you. I went through 2 months or more of outpatient treatment for depression, on a daily basis, and it changed my life. I found courage to make my own decisions, to realize people could only control me if I let them, and most importantly it gave me coping mechanisms when life got too full to bear anymore. Please go now.....Use the phone and call 911 or get to the hospital and be honest with them.
2006-12-17 15:27:34 · answer #6 · answered by donnabellekc 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
should u not attempt to hurt or kill urself..he's just ur friend and if he does treat u like that, then he's not a good friend... u just have to rejuvenate urself..try going out and making more friends to gain more self-confidence... a problem can never be solved by backing out.. u gotta face ur problem and surpass all ur insecurities.. try listening to the song of cristina aguillera... "u r beautiful"... always be cheerful.. dnt let other people push you down...believe in urself and have faith in GOD... just PRAY... everything is possible...
2006-12-17 15:32:21 · answer #7 · answered by zyvyxlady 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No .. I take it you are woman. You find your self unattractive to this other man. You need to get outta this informant he's not worth you killing yourself over. Get out NOW ASAP. Life is worth living and you will find yourself with out all this ****. Go to a safe haven where they will take care of you . Dint cut yourself. Its not worth you spilling your blood over if he is there. If you are a man which i dint know for sure. Still the same goes. He isn't worth taking your life for. PLEASE for God/s sake get out NOW. And I will be praying for you. Nobody is worth taking your own life to seek peace. Your life is too valuable . Let us know how it tunes out.
2006-12-17 15:41:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
first step your not along,you don't have to be a backburner for no man you have yourself to live for ,you came o his world along and you'll laeve along,and i know you don't want to leave here burning in hell forever over and over ,you must first get on you knees and ask god for guildence,and call the shelter for help ,even ask for the number to a battred shelter they will come get you ,and keep everything confidential,but you have to be ready to change you life,are you really tired?if so all your waiting on is a call,and it's that easy,your life isn't worth anyones treasure
2006-12-17 15:35:14 · answer #9 · answered by molly 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
GO SEE A DOCTOR HE WILL HELP YOU MAY HAVE GO IN THE HOSPITAL TO GET YOU HELP THEY MAY HAVE TO RUN BLOOD TEST TO MAKE SURE NOTHING IS WRONG THERE AND THEN A TEST FOR ALL INFECTIONS TO MAKE SURE YOU DO NOT HAVE ANY OF THEM TOO THEY TAKE ABOUT (12) TUBES OF BLOOD AND UNA TEST AND A POOP TEST TOO SO SORRY EVER ONE BUT SHE ASKED I WENT THOUGH IT ALL TOO I HAVE TYPE 1-2 MANIC DEPRESSION TYPE 2 DIABETES MY GRAIN HEAD ACHES ASTHMA SILENT SEGRE'S A BLOOD TEST MRI C-SCAN A SLEEP STUDY AND ALL OTHER TEST YOU CAN THINK OF
2006-12-17 16:21:32 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋